Recommended Reading Thread

[Leanna]

can't believe I forgot

Biblical Parenting by Crystal Lutton

 

[jessesgirl]

I might have to check it out, Ms. Dahl. Leanna...Biblical Parenting...is that a grace based discipline geared book...per chance?

 

[Leanna]

Yes

 

[jessesgirl]

Adding that to my list!

 

[Robinsegg]

Is anyone familiar with Aaron's Way: The Journey of a Strong-Willed Child by Kendra & Aaron Smiley? It's a book written by the mother of a strong-willed child . . . . and the (now grown) strong-willed child. I heard a workshop done by them, and it was very enlightening.
BTW, I don't think this is a grace-based parenting book, as it does talk about punishing. I'm not sure this is the purpose of this thread?
Rachel

 

[heart of peace]

Here is the book thread that I wanted to revive.

I finally got the How to Talk So Kids Will Listen book and it has proven very helpful in my parenting. It is a good book for those in the toddler and older years. So, I guess I'm adding it to my list now.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Yay thanks for bumping this thread. I'm gonna go through it now

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Ok so I have a list of books that I've beeen secretly adding to my Amazon wish list for years now I know some are not needed probably until the baby is born (or much later).

Can you guys help me figure out which ones I should buy early on in pregnancy? Later in pregnancy? MUST HAVES before the baby comes, and ones that can wait until after?

And I don't want to buy them all. The most important ones I'll buy, the rest (maybe duplicates on the same topic) I'll borrow from the library.



Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen

Vaccinations: A Thoughtful Parent's Guide: How to Make Safe, Sensible Decisions about the Risks, Benefits, and Alternatives
by Aviva Jill Romm

Good Nights: The Happy Parents' Guide to the Family Bed (and a Peaceful Night's Sleep!) by Maria Goodavage (Author), Jay Gordon (Author)

Smart Medicine for a Healthier Child by Janet Zand

Teaching Montessori in the Home: Pre-School Years: The Pre-School Years (Teaching Montessori in the Home) by Elizabeth G. Hainstock (Author), Lee Davis (Author)
Biblical Parenting by Crystal Lutton

What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Children's Vaccinations by Stephanie Cave (Author), Deborah Mitchell (Contributor)

Evidence of Harm: Mercury in Vaccines and the Autism Epidemic: A Medical Controversy by David Kirby (Author)

Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool by Hal Edward Runkel (Author)

Teach Me to Do It Myself: Montessori Activities for You and Your Child by Maja Pitamic

Montessori from the Start: The Child at Home, from Birth to Age Three by Paula Polk Lillard

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (How to Help Your Child) by Adele Faber (Author), Elaine Mazlish (Author)

How To Raise An Amazing Child the Montessori Way by Tim Seldin

Montessori Today: A Comprehensive Approach to Education from Birth to Adulthood by Paula Polk Lillard

The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley (Author), William Sears (Author)

The Attachment Parenting Book : A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

The Complete Book of Christian Parenting & Child Care: A Medical & Moral Guide to Raising Happy, Healthy Children by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

The Healthiest Kid in the Neighborhood: Ten Ways to Get Your Family on the Right Nutritional Track (Sears Parenting Library) by William Sears (Author), et al.

The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two (Revised and Updated Edition) by William Sears (Author), et al.

Keeping Your Baby Healthy : America's Most Foremost Baby and Childcare Experts Answer the Most Frequently Asked Questions by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

The Breastfeeding Book: Everything You Need to Know About Nursing Your Child from Birth Through Weaning by Martha Sears (Author), William Sears (Author)

The Discipline Book: How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten by Martha Sears (Author), William Sears (Author)

The Birth Book: Everything You Need to Know to Have a Safe and Satisfying Birth (Sears Parenting Library) by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

The Baby Sleep Book: The Complete Guide to a Good Night's Rest for the Whole Family (Sears Parenting Library) by William Sears (Author), et al.

The Vaccine Book: Making the Right Decision for Your Child (Sears Parenting Library) by Robert Sears (Author)

 

[heart of peace]

Wow, that's some list you have there. How much fun you must be having already!!

Um, I'd recommend reading during pregnancy:

- the AP book*
- a breastfeeding book*
- a book about your birthing time
- a vaccination book*

*It's important to educate yourself about situations that will not occur until immediately after your child is born as you can at least enter the situation with some knowledge and that time won't be the time to read up on it. You'll be too busy living it to read about it.

Everything else can wait until you have gotten into a groove with your newborn and you can read when he or she is napping (that's what I did. On at least one of his 3 naps in the beginning I used to spend it reading. I am a book lover).

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Ok I figured that. I have several of the vaccination books on my list... any one in particular you think is better?

 

[heart of peace]

I wish I read a vaccination book during pregnancy. I would recommend The Vaccine Book, 100%.

 

[Leanna]

Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen

-- read this when you have a 20+ month old

Vaccinations: A Thoughtful Parent's Guide: How to Make Safe, Sensible Decisions about the Risks, Benefits, and Alternatives
by Aviva Jill Romm

-- this is good, I'd rate this one in the top 3 for vaccination books

Good Nights: The Happy Parents' Guide to the Family Bed (and a Peaceful Night's Sleep!) by Maria Goodavage (Author), Jay Gordon (Author)

-- I'd skip this, but then I'm not a cosleeper

Smart Medicine for a Healthier Child by Janet Zand

-- never heard of it

Teaching Montessori in the Home: Pre-School Years: The Pre-School Years (Teaching Montessori in the Home) by Elizabeth G. Hainstock (Author), Lee Davis (Author)

-- never heard of it

What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Children's Vaccinations by Stephanie Cave (Author), Deborah Mitchell (Contributor)

-- I really like this book, you should buy it!

Evidence of Harm: Mercury in Vaccines and the Autism Epidemic: A Medical Controversy by David Kirby (Author)

-- This is really more of a "story" and very interesting, but isn't going to give you the widespread knowledge of the other vaccination books you've listed, so I'd read it later and get it from the library if possible

Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool by Hal Edward Runkel (Author)

-- never heard of this one

Teach Me to Do It Myself: Montessori Activities for You and Your Child by Maja Pitamic

-- never heard of this one

Montessori from the Start: The Child at Home, from Birth to Age Three by Paula Polk Lillard

-- never heard of this one

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (How to Help Your Child) by Adele Faber (Author), Elaine Mazlish (Author)

-- read/buy this one when you have a 2 year old

How To Raise An Amazing Child the Montessori Way by Tim Seldin

-- I really really like this book!... more of it applies to toddlerhood and preschool years than babyhood, I can't remember if it gets into the infant ideas in this book which are basically, skip the crib and cosleeping and put your baby on a mattress on the floor, provide interestingly textured quality toys but not a ton, make the environment baby friendly rather than using playyards and container-devices (there I summarized all you need to know for the first year Montessori I think lol)

Montessori Today: A Comprehensive Approach to Education from Birth to Adulthood by Paula Polk Lillard

-- haven't heard of this one either

The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley (Author), William Sears (Author)

-- absolutely read this one before your baby is born, sleeping challenges are most easily prevented rather than solved later IMHO

The Attachment Parenting Book : A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

-- I'd skip this one

The Complete Book of Christian Parenting & Child Care: A Medical & Moral Guide to Raising Happy, Healthy Children by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

-- I'd skip this one too because you can get all this in "The Baby Book"

The Healthiest Kid in the Neighborhood: Ten Ways to Get Your Family on the Right Nutritional Track (Sears Parenting Library) by William Sears (Author), et al.

-- I like this one!! I've read it twice

The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two (Revised and Updated Edition) by William Sears (Author), et al.

-- Its not bad, but I'm not loving it either, but then some new mothers like some kind of book about infanthood in which case this is as good of a choice as any ... I think I haven't really read a book on babyhood that I really call a must read though, actually check out the chapters on this one I am pretty sure he goes into pregnancy and birth in it, which might help you buy less books

Keeping Your Baby Healthy : America's Most Foremost Baby and Childcare Experts Answer the Most Frequently Asked Questions by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

-- haven't heard of this one

The Breastfeeding Book: Everything You Need to Know About Nursing Your Child from Birth Through Weaning by Martha Sears (Author), William Sears (Author)

-- Skip this and buy So That's What They're For instread ... its such an easy to read book and I hear it recommended a lot

The Discipline Book: How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten by Martha Sears (Author), William Sears (Author)

-- haven't read it, but I have heard it is good

The Birth Book: Everything You Need to Know to Have a Safe and Satisfying Birth (Sears Parenting Library) by William Sears (Author), Martha Sears (Author)

-- If you want a natural birth, this would be a good thing to read

The Baby Sleep Book: The Complete Guide to a Good Night's Rest for the Whole Family (Sears Parenting Library) by William Sears (Author), et al.

-- skip this you will receive all this information in The Baby Book

The Vaccine Book: Making the Right Decision for Your Child (Sears Parenting Library) by Robert Sears (Author)[/quote]

-- BUY THIS



Your library probably has a lot of Dr. Sears books, I know mine did.... which is a good thing because I am really picky about what I actually purchase and I get most things from the library.... save your money, love your library....

 

[heart of peace]

How interesting to recommend skipping the fundamental book that is the crux of Dr. Sears' teachings! I am curious as to why you would not recommend it?

About bf, I never read anything besides a small little pamphlet created by LLL and we managed very well with that. It got us past the toe curling utterly unbearable pain the first 6 weeks.

I agree about using the library. I read it from the library first and if I really like it, then I get it off of paperbackswap.com. If I LOVE it and can't wait, then I buy it.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Thanks Leanna

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

What about Biblical Parenting? When is a good time to read that?

 

[Leanna]

How interesting to recommend skipping the fundamental book that is the crux of Dr. Sears' teachings! I am curious as to why you would not recommend it?

There's a lot of repetition (in his other books), I found it uninspiring, I'm not sold on everything he says, and you can find a condensed version of the same thing in The Baby Book

About bf, I never read anything besides a small little pamphlet created by LLL

... or the information could be found online for free, too.... but if you want a book, the one I mentioned is funny and useful at the same time

 

[heart of peace]

There's a lot of repetition (in his other books), I found it uninspiring, I'm not sold on everything he says, and you can find a condensed version of the same thing in The Baby Book
... or the information could be found online for free, too.... but if you want a book, the one I mentioned is funny and useful at the same time

Ah, yes, I understand now. He is extremely repeptitive. That is why I opted for The AP Book as it is the staple of Sear's Library and his Discipline Book (but to be honest, I don't really reference it all that much).

I heard about that bf book you mentioned. I never really got into reading about bf much more then that pamphlet. I clung to that pamphlet for dear life the first few weeks! LOL It was great that it was pocket sized as well.


Leanna, have you ever read Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn? His work is a bit over the top but there are some insightful pieces. I forgot to mention that if I read a book that only has a few useful pieces, I usually copy the pages I found beneficial. That's what I did with UP. Not sure if you find him interesting or not, I do think that the author of Biblical Parenting was not received well by him on his forum at one point.

 

[Leanna]

I do think that the author of Biblical Parenting was not received well by him on his forum at one point.

Why not?

 

[Linnis]

I would recommend reading as much about breastfeeding as possible while pregnant. You think you'll never need it etc but when it's 3 in the morning it's handy to remember the tip that works and helps limit the -utterly unbearable pain- in the beginning.

Thankfully to the library I was able to take out lots of books on breastfeeding, birth and parenting for free.

I'm reading Your One-Year-old 12 to 24 months fun-loving and Fussy By Louise Bates Ames and a few others. I will be picking up the two year old book when I'm done this one.

 

[heart of peace]

Why not?

I am not exactly sure as I didn't really take completely to his theories. I just poked around his message forum a bit while reading it (this is going back at least 2 years now) and seeing some controversial threads going on. The author of Biblical Parenting has a website spelled uniquely, right? Something with a and e in it. Maybe I am not recalling it correctly. My library didn't have her book and I remember finding her website exactly right for what I needed at the time.

ETA: I tried to do a search just now for it on his forum, but lo and behold, it has been closed down. It must not have been worth it for him to maintain.