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[RedneckAnglican]

I can't take codine either...it makes me sick.

I was given liquid codine about 13 years ago when I had my tonsils out...the first dose felt like I had swallowed extra hot picante sause...I threw the rest of the bottle away...I lived on ice water for 3 weeks...lost a lot of wieght though....

 

[seajoy]

...I lived on ice water for 3 weeks...lost a lot of wieght though....

Too bad I can't have my tonsils out again!

 

[dinkime]

i lost 13 pounds the summer i went to ukraine -- think i can repeat that this year??

 

[RedneckAnglican]

Too bad I can't have my tonsils out again!

sometime they grow back...you never kknow...

i lost 13 pounds the summer i went to ukraine -- think i can repeat that this year??

really...what'd you do...walk there?...

 

[dinkime]

really...what'd you do...walk there?...

well, we walked everywhere while we were there, plus we ate less, lol -- but it was a 3 week trip and we averaged 6+ miles a day walking, plus lots of stairs & playing with the kids at VBS

 

[Flipper]

Okay. I'm quite toasted. (mucho vino) And trying not to bite my head off at my guests. They are our dear friends, who are homeless. We offered them the house last night for showers, laundry, and a place to sleep. Figured it was cold out (January) and A Good Thing to give them a warm place to sleep for the night.

But after church today they came back. *sighs* At least they asked about overstaying their welcome, and I told them they need to be goen by the time Hunter comes home from work. He's a stong "I" on the Meyers Briggs Personality Type Indiator (introvert), and he needs his space to rejuvenate. So I hope they'll be gone in an hour.

I want to do more, but I have to focus on the health of my family first.

I feel bad for turning them out. How sad. I know they are going to sleep in their car tonight.

But at least they have had a shower, and they have had a couple good, hot meals, and they have had a night indoors in the warmth sleepign.

*sighs*

I need more wine.

That's tough and I feel for you.

My husband likes to help those in need of a home, whether it be dogs, cats or people. About 4 years ago, talked me into letting one of his techs, who was kicked out of the apartment by her supposedly verbally abusive boyfriend, stay with us for just a few weeks. A few weeks turned into 6 months! To her credit, she tried to stay out of our way, and even cooked and cleaned!

When I finally decided to play my wifely power card (see previous banter between Ed and I and others about wives and their powers), he tried to tell me that he's just used to it being like college where people just come and go, and just couldn't understand why I would have a problem. Hello!! We're married now!!! He'd been out of college almost 10 years at that point!!!

The next day he told her she needed to find her own place, and in 2 weeks, she was out. We don't fight that often, but when we do...

It's great you want to help, though. Just don't let it turn into a fight with the spouse.

 

[RedneckAnglican]

well, we walked everywhere while we were there, plus we ate less, lol -- but it was a 3 week trip and we averaged 6+ miles a day walking, plus lots of stairs & playing with the kids at VBS

YEP...THAT'LL DO IT...

 

[Edial]

Okay. I'm quite toasted. (mucho vino) And trying not to bite my head off at my guests. They are our dear friends, who are homeless. We offered them the house last night for showers, laundry, and a place to sleep. Figured it was cold out (January) and A Good Thing to give them a warm place to sleep for the night.

But after church today they came back. *sighs* At least they asked about overstaying their welcome, and I told them they need to be goen by the time Hunter comes home from work. He's a stong "I" on the Meyers Briggs Personality Type Indiator (introvert), and he needs his space to rejuvenate. So I hope they'll be gone in an hour.

I want to do more, but I have to focus on the health of my family first.

I feel bad for turning them out. How sad. I know they are going to sleep in their car tonight.

But at least they have had a shower, and they have had a couple good, hot meals, and they have had a night indoors in the warmth sleepign.

*sighs*

I need more wine.

I think that in cases like these you and your husband should be in complete agreement whether that couple stays.

Thanks,
Ed

 

[KagomeShuko]

Yeah, referring to all of us. . .including myself!

She's Lutheran, too. . .so. . .haha. . .probably her as well. ..

Oh, hey, I know she's (my sister's) in there - Asperger's syndrome AND Lutheran.. . .oh boy. . .

Stein Auf!
Bridget

 

[seajoy]

Whew...I've been waiting for your response!

Bridget, I've been on pins and needles!

 

[Studeclunker]

The homeless is a problem that just tears my heart out. This especially strikes close to home for me as I just may be there soon. Still, there's usually a reason as to why people are in this position. Have these people contacted Lutheran Social Services? They have shelters and programmes designed to help them 'learn to fish for life' as well as feeding them for the day.

There's nothing wrong with taking someone in for just a day. There's also nothing wrong with helping someone out for a longer period if BOTH of you feel so moved. Listen to that 'still, small voice'. Also, watch these people. They just may only need a quick boost back up onto the wagon.

I think what you did was wonderful. We, as Christians, are called to help the destitute. We are not called to take all of them in and try to solve their problems.

Don't beat yourself up about calling an end to a temporary situation that wasn't presented as anything else. Have you no Church body to go to for these people's assistance? Is your congregation not able to help? Call your pastor and put it into his hands. Again, it's okay to limit something like this. You fed them, gave them a warm place to sleep and bathe. It's all right to set limits.

 

[Jim47]

Double vodka martini, a little dry, straight up. Works like a charm.

Or you might try a little something that I happened upon whilst traveling. It's what I really rely on and works like a charm.

http://deepsleep101.com/index.html

For your back pain, you may want to try a Pilates exercise ball. They are easily found and you'll be surprised at the level of workout you can get sitting down. It worked for me.

Thanks for your help. Much appreciated.

I talk a lot about drinking beer, brandy etc, but it mostly talk. So martinies are out for me, but I think the excercize ball might help. Just what is it you do with them? Do you lay on your back and move around, or on your stomach, or both? Is this it? http://www.fitnessscape.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Session_ID=441c6cf32eb9c5bbea3fc7da25ec3586&

 

[Jim47]

well, we walked everywhere while we were there, plus we ate less, lol -- but it was a 3 week trip and we averaged 6+ miles a day walking, plus lots of stairs & playing with the kids at VBS

I had a job about 20 some years ago where I walked 4-5 miles a day. It really is good excercize. I wished I could still do it.

 

[ctay]

Wish I could find something to do outside the church. I went and filled out an application to voluteer at this place that gives out food and clothing to people who need it, never heard back from them. Our women's bible study talked about doing some kind of volunteering in the community, nothing has come out of it yet. My suggestions kind of got shot down by one lady. I had ideas about going to nursing homes and visit people in it maybe giving them a care package, visiting kids in the hospital and giving them something little, also going to the housing projects and talk to someone and tell them we would do little things, like babysitting, carrying someone to the dr maybe a housecleaning, that type of thing. It got shot down.

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

Okay. I'm quite toasted. (mucho vino) And trying not to bite my head off at my guests. They are our dear friends, who are homeless. We offered them the house last night for showers, laundry, and a place to sleep. Figured it was cold out (January) and A Good Thing to give them a warm place to sleep for the night.

But after church today they came back. *sighs* At least they asked about overstaying their welcome, and I told them they need to be goen by the time Hunter comes home from work. He's a stong "I" on the Meyers Briggs Personality Type Indiator (introvert), and he needs his space to rejuvenate. So I hope they'll be gone in an hour.

I want to do more, but I have to focus on the health of my family first.

I feel bad for turning them out. How sad. I know they are going to sleep in their car tonight.

But at least they have had a shower, and they have had a couple good, hot meals, and they have had a night indoors in the warmth sleepign.

*sighs*

I need more wine.

Synger?---you still here on the forum?


Were in the world did you find someone homeless? Was there a resource you went through to find them?

 

[seajoy]

Wish I could find something to do outside the church. I went and filled out an application to voluteer at this place that gives out food and clothing to people who need it, never heard back from them. Our women's bible study talked about doing some kind of volunteering in the community, nothing has come out of it yet. My suggestions kind of got shot down by one lady. I had ideas about going to nursing homes and visit people in it maybe giving them a care package, visiting kids in the hospital and giving them something little, also going to the housing projects and talk to someone and tell them we would do little things, like babysitting, carrying someone to the dr maybe a housecleaning, that type of thing. It got shot down.

It was probably "never done that way before."
That kind of shoot ya down stuff, really gets on my nerves .

Keep trying!

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

Wish I could find something to do outside the church. I went and filled out an application to voluteer at this place that gives out food and clothing to people who need it, never heard back from them. Our women's bible study talked about doing some kind of volunteering in the community, nothing has come out of it yet. My suggestions kind of got shot down by one lady. I had ideas about going to nursing homes and visit people in it maybe giving them a care package, visiting kids in the hospital and giving them something little, also going to the housing projects and talk to someone and tell them we would do little things, like babysitting, carrying someone to the dr maybe a housecleaning, that type of thing. It got shot down.

Try finding a group that does prison ministry. Unfortunately ther arn't too many Lutheran groups that do that. If you find other groups like non-denom or RC then you usually have to follow their format and it can be can of tricky.

There are also Christian groups that do Habitat for Humanity in every city if you like doing rehab work. I've also seen whole houses built also.

It would help if you found groups that were allready organized and joined them. Call Lutheran Charaties also. I don't know what they have available but that would be a start.

 

[ctay]

Thanks Rad,
I've thought about checking into the Habitat for Humanity. I've been down to the Gulf Coast 3 times helping with that.
I also have sent an email to someone with the Volunteer center to see what they had, never got an answer so I may call them instead.

 

[LilLamb219]

ctay, do you have a Ladies Society group or a Ladies Aide group at your church? Those are the types of things our Ladies Society does...maybe you could consider starting up such a group since the Bible Study doesn't want to lose their focus of what their group is doing right now.

 

[Flipper]

Wish I could find something to do outside the church. I went and filled out an application to voluteer at this place that gives out food and clothing to people who need it, never heard back from them. Our women's bible study talked about doing some kind of volunteering in the community, nothing has come out of it yet. My suggestions kind of got shot down by one lady. I had ideas about going to nursing homes and visit people in it maybe giving them a care package, visiting kids in the hospital and giving them something little, also going to the housing projects and talk to someone and tell them we would do little things, like babysitting, carrying someone to the dr maybe a housecleaning, that type of thing. It got shot down.

That's so discouraging.