Sorting Out This Confusion

I'm so confused. I'm not even sure what I'm confused about. I just feel so clueless about men and relationships... I feel like I'm never going to get a clue unless I get out there and date more... date men who are good Christian men who will not drag me down, be more sure of their character before taking that step, be MUCH MORE CAREFUL of who I put myself around this time. I just wonder what a good guy would be like to date. I want to experience that and see what a difference being with a healthy guy would be. But that last relationship left ME so mangled (was it the relationship or was it moreso the woman at work I was dealing with at the same time - or the combination put together? I really think it was the combination of both together that left me so depleted. Oh but I can't be certain of the origination of all this confusion)... maybe it's best that I don't date until I've healed up more. So THEN WHAT DO I DO? Maybe the truth is that I just need to get counseling after that relationship... maybe there are things that just still need to be sorted out that are left unresolved in my mind. But I'm just so wary of counselors... not all counselors know what they're doing and I have to be extra careful right now when I'm feeling so impressionable that I don't open myself up to the wrong person for help. It would definitely have to be a Christian counselor. I am seeing things more clearly, overall... I have made leaps and bounds compared to where I was... but I'm still not completely in the clear. I've definitely sorted out a lot on my own, but I wonder if I've reached a point where it would be good to get a professional's insight. I'm understanding what happened in some areas but in others, I'm still dumbfounded. If nothing else, I know that God is taking care of me in this healing process and that time heals all. I've come so far; if God could take me through what He has already... the rest is like a walk in the park.