One Of The Biggest Struggles

Alot of our friends and (family members on his mother's side )are about or around our age and are married and now starting to get pregnant and even tho we discussed this before getting married and actually almost broke up cause of the issue of having kids. There is 7yrs between us i don't know if thats a good thing or a bad thing but i can see that hes releasing his desire to be a father thru his anger / discipline cause when he gets angry w me he starts treating me as his own child which is kinda scary and offensive to me. Even more so my MIL is starting up raising hints and all about children but hubs doesn't want to deal with telling her that we are NOT going to have children so DO I tell her OR do i let my coward husband deal with it???? I don't know if i will be going down there for thanksgiving just one of the many reasons cause the last time & first time she brought it up was on my 30th birthday but don't know if she will bring it up again. I do know that her sisters talk about things that are posted on FB and im friends with them all so maybe like i HINT post about the whole thing. It just hurts me to see when my hubs goes and comments on our friends posts about their surprise of finding out and telling all fam and friends about being pregant but i feel soo guilty that i cant and totally wouldn't give him children some of it is due to my family and his anger issues. Im soo tried of dealing with this issue for 5yrs i just want to get this thing settled and deal with the uproar from my MIL and just get it over with!!!