We have very different views and interpretations of what the scriptures say and that spills out into almost every aspect of our life and marriage. We have been trying to work together for over two years now, for as long as we have been married and we keep banging our heads against the wall. I have received advice that we should just be our own person and believe our own way and just leave all those 'hot points' alone. But I do not believe this strengthens us at all and it makes me feel far from my husband as he would rather talk about his beliefs with others and not me. I have been praying for God to strengthen and bless our marriage as it has been a very rocky and difficult marriage.
Some examples where we see things differently are: He believes watching movies like horror flicks and watching television shows like south park do not influence him and are fine shows to watch and laugh at as long as you know that what they are saying is wrong. This make no sense to me because I don't believe Jesus would be watching South Park and drawn in by horror flicks. Laughing at the jokes made about Christians meant to sway society to have dislike for the Christians. Or fat people or glorifying drug addicts or cussing or what ever other bad influence it has. Or my husband believes that sarcasim is fine and is fine to use in almost every sentence a person utters out of their mouth. I disagree because to me a mans word is his honor so to speak and when a mans speech is most all in sarcastic remakes how can anyone really know when that person is being serious or joking or what that man truly feels? and it is too easy to fall into the trap of using sarcasim to express bad feelings but hidden behind a sarcastic remark only later to be shrugged off as just a joke or 'just being sarcastic'. I don't know if i explained myself well. And yes, if they really meant a sarcastic remark in a mean way and then when asked they say they didn't mean it that way then it is them who is wrong but shouldn't a person ask on every sarcastic remark? How can someone say that when it sounds sarcastic about something bad then they mean it sarcasticly and when it is sarcastic about something good then they don't really mean that. How can any person go through life using sarcastic remarks be completely innocent in all their speak. That is to say sarcastic people are pure and those who speak without sarcasim are not. That is obviously not true. There are just some of the things we differ on and make it difficult in every day situations. My convictions convict me from sarcasm and show like South Park and make a divide in most all activities or conversations we have. In conversations because he doesn't like being asked if he is being sarcastic or serious and feels I need to be more like other people in society and I do not feel that way.
I want to mold myself into God's will and I am looking for guidance. I pray God will speak through you and give me direction. I thank you for you time and God bless!
Some examples where we see things differently are: He believes watching movies like horror flicks and watching television shows like south park do not influence him and are fine shows to watch and laugh at as long as you know that what they are saying is wrong. This make no sense to me because I don't believe Jesus would be watching South Park and drawn in by horror flicks. Laughing at the jokes made about Christians meant to sway society to have dislike for the Christians. Or fat people or glorifying drug addicts or cussing or what ever other bad influence it has. Or my husband believes that sarcasim is fine and is fine to use in almost every sentence a person utters out of their mouth. I disagree because to me a mans word is his honor so to speak and when a mans speech is most all in sarcastic remakes how can anyone really know when that person is being serious or joking or what that man truly feels? and it is too easy to fall into the trap of using sarcasim to express bad feelings but hidden behind a sarcastic remark only later to be shrugged off as just a joke or 'just being sarcastic'. I don't know if i explained myself well. And yes, if they really meant a sarcastic remark in a mean way and then when asked they say they didn't mean it that way then it is them who is wrong but shouldn't a person ask on every sarcastic remark? How can someone say that when it sounds sarcastic about something bad then they mean it sarcasticly and when it is sarcastic about something good then they don't really mean that. How can any person go through life using sarcastic remarks be completely innocent in all their speak. That is to say sarcastic people are pure and those who speak without sarcasim are not. That is obviously not true. There are just some of the things we differ on and make it difficult in every day situations. My convictions convict me from sarcasm and show like South Park and make a divide in most all activities or conversations we have. In conversations because he doesn't like being asked if he is being sarcastic or serious and feels I need to be more like other people in society and I do not feel that way.
I want to mold myself into God's will and I am looking for guidance. I pray God will speak through you and give me direction. I thank you for you time and God bless!
