Hi, everyone:
I recently learned that my husband of 3years has been lying and cheating continuously throughout the time we've been married. I have legitimate proof that he has been dishonest, but whenever I try to talk to him about it, he denies everything. His friend has been unfaithful to his spouse as well, and they ended up separating. While his friend was separated, my husband and his friend partied and cheated. His friend bragged that "he didn't admit anything, and his wife came begging him back", and my husband seemed to have taken the same stance. My husband is a wonderful provider (we have no children [yet]) and overall nice guy. However, he is a chronic liar.
My other issue is that his friend's wife (who is known to be a 'misery loves company kind of gal') was the one who confirmed my suspicions. She keeps calling and e-mailing pics of random girls that the guys have been cheating with, and it makes me sick. I feel as though she has no hope for her marriage so she tries to snuff out my ray of hope. Still, I know that she isn't lying, bec I have seen hotel receipts, messages, etc. My husband denies every single thing. I feel so sick inside...more from the lying than the infidelity. We have done Christian counseling, and he said is grudgingly willing to go again, but I know he will sit there and lie.I guess I sound rather pessimistic, but it's the truth. I was pushing for counseling initially, but now I have just given up. I don't think/know if he will ever admit to his dishonesty, and I feel so disrespected when he sits and continues to lie to my face. Other than this, we have a good relationship...good meaning 'peaceful'. We don't yell and scream (anymore). I talk calmly and so does he. Our arguments, which used to last for days, only last for hours. Now, however, I find myself not wanting to be around him. I don't want to be phsysically intimate with him, either...and it makes me worry that he will cheat some more. Please offer your thoughts and prayers on this matter. Thank you.
I recently learned that my husband of 3years has been lying and cheating continuously throughout the time we've been married. I have legitimate proof that he has been dishonest, but whenever I try to talk to him about it, he denies everything. His friend has been unfaithful to his spouse as well, and they ended up separating. While his friend was separated, my husband and his friend partied and cheated. His friend bragged that "he didn't admit anything, and his wife came begging him back", and my husband seemed to have taken the same stance. My husband is a wonderful provider (we have no children [yet]) and overall nice guy. However, he is a chronic liar.
My other issue is that his friend's wife (who is known to be a 'misery loves company kind of gal') was the one who confirmed my suspicions. She keeps calling and e-mailing pics of random girls that the guys have been cheating with, and it makes me sick. I feel as though she has no hope for her marriage so she tries to snuff out my ray of hope. Still, I know that she isn't lying, bec I have seen hotel receipts, messages, etc. My husband denies every single thing. I feel so sick inside...more from the lying than the infidelity. We have done Christian counseling, and he said is grudgingly willing to go again, but I know he will sit there and lie.I guess I sound rather pessimistic, but it's the truth. I was pushing for counseling initially, but now I have just given up. I don't think/know if he will ever admit to his dishonesty, and I feel so disrespected when he sits and continues to lie to my face. Other than this, we have a good relationship...good meaning 'peaceful'. We don't yell and scream (anymore). I talk calmly and so does he. Our arguments, which used to last for days, only last for hours. Now, however, I find myself not wanting to be around him. I don't want to be phsysically intimate with him, either...and it makes me worry that he will cheat some more. Please offer your thoughts and prayers on this matter. Thank you.
