Hi all!
My husband and I have been married just over a month now but have been in a relationship for 6 years. Not that how we got to marraige is irrelevant, it's just a long story and just a small part of the concern I have today. We are both saved and have professed Jesus Christ to be our Lord and Savior.
What I am facing today is a repeat of what I dealt with prior to our marraige. I recently went online to pay our cell phone bill and noticed that the bill had exceeded tremendously what I had expected it to be. There were alot of overage charges so I investegated to see when and how the excess in calls had occurred. Anyways, I discovered that my husband had been making numerous calls to a local chatline (and some outerstate ones) as well as possibly calling some of the women. I did not wish to go through and dial all the numbers associated with our account but I am fairly confident that God allowed me to see just enough to get me the idea.
When I confronted my husband, he admitted he had made the calls and said they were made just in fun. He then reminded me that several years prior to us being married he had struggled with the same thing and that I knew it was something he had a hard time controlling so I shouldn't have been 'too suprised'. He said that nothing had come out of the calls that he wasn't going to meet any of these women and that now we are married we need to work through this issue together. Needless to say, I am very upset and quickly considered ending this marraige before it even has a chance to begin. I am figuring if its like this this early in our marraige, we are headed for a much bumpier ride.
Is there anyone who can help with any advice as to how I should handle this? I will say that we have 2 young boys together as well. But that certainly wouldnt' hinder me from filing for a divorce or a separation. I don't want to stay in a relationship out of obligation to my children. Please help!
My husband and I have been married just over a month now but have been in a relationship for 6 years. Not that how we got to marraige is irrelevant, it's just a long story and just a small part of the concern I have today. We are both saved and have professed Jesus Christ to be our Lord and Savior.
What I am facing today is a repeat of what I dealt with prior to our marraige. I recently went online to pay our cell phone bill and noticed that the bill had exceeded tremendously what I had expected it to be. There were alot of overage charges so I investegated to see when and how the excess in calls had occurred. Anyways, I discovered that my husband had been making numerous calls to a local chatline (and some outerstate ones) as well as possibly calling some of the women. I did not wish to go through and dial all the numbers associated with our account but I am fairly confident that God allowed me to see just enough to get me the idea.
When I confronted my husband, he admitted he had made the calls and said they were made just in fun. He then reminded me that several years prior to us being married he had struggled with the same thing and that I knew it was something he had a hard time controlling so I shouldn't have been 'too suprised'. He said that nothing had come out of the calls that he wasn't going to meet any of these women and that now we are married we need to work through this issue together. Needless to say, I am very upset and quickly considered ending this marraige before it even has a chance to begin. I am figuring if its like this this early in our marraige, we are headed for a much bumpier ride.
Is there anyone who can help with any advice as to how I should handle this? I will say that we have 2 young boys together as well. But that certainly wouldnt' hinder me from filing for a divorce or a separation. I don't want to stay in a relationship out of obligation to my children. Please help!