Lesson learned about judgement

There were some things that I had to go through in the past month to learn something: Judgment, anger, hurt. Judgment without compassion hurts. Judgment without facts or proof is unfair. Judgment by comparison makes me angry. Having gone through that over and over, and trying to deal with the "WHY?!" finds me beating my head on the wall. And it's frustrating to never have an answer to satisfy my need to understand the "WHY" of the judgment. And who hadn't wanted an answer to the question~ "WHY?" However unfair the judgment may seem, I must ask from now on, "why are YOU upset?" "why do YOU think like that?" "how did YOU come to that conclusion?" Has it made me stronger? No. Has it made me more aware of how I judge someone? Yes. Has it made me more aware of the other person's feelings when they judge me? I'm getting there. I'm still a selfish human being, I still make mistakes...and I still need loving correction/forgiveness in order to do better next time. I'll always be a work in progess til the day I die, or when Jesus comes back.

I trust, and I hurt, and I trust again. I love, I hurt and I love again.

I'll leave with this wonderful quote from C.S. Lewis ("The Four Loves")

"Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact-you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin or your selfishness. But in that casket--safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will be unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.......

To love is to be vulnerable."