When my daughter was born it was an exciting and scary time for me, I was in the delivery room watching the Dr. calmly tell her mother to breath and push, breath and push, then don’t push! Don’t push! Stop pushing! I turned my head to looked at her worried that she was in pain. (Yes I know she was giving birth and there was a lot of pain.) I spoke softly to her, “Andrea? Stop pushing” That’s when I realized that was probably the stupidest thing I ever said. She look at me and said, “I heard the #*&@ Dr. Mr. wizard. You lay here and put this in your stomach and try not to push!, I’ve never heard such a stupid *#@*#*&# statement in my life! Stop pushing, who the H*#% do you think you are?”
Nicole had the umbilical cord around her neck and was lacking oxygen, skillfully the dr. removed the cord, and Nicole was born before I turned back to look. In my eyes she was perfect despite all the goo and blood there was new life. And I was a new father, without a clue how to raise a child.
When God created the heavens and the earth, He created everything his child Adam would need to survive in the garden and ultimately in the world, God created His perfect child (although Adam was probably in his mid teens, God knew exactly what to tell Adam to survive, He knew that Adam would need a mate, and created the perfect woman for him. And like all children whether we think they are perfect or not will disobey and do things to hurt us, they will test their limits just as Adam and Eve did. God said don’t they did it anyway, God had instructed them in everything yet they went their own way.
You see dear reader God gives us the perfect mate, He has given us the handbook to live in this world, yet like Adam and Eve we do what we please anyway. God knows better then anyone what exactly we need what woman for what man, what man for what woman. The problem is we think we know better than He does what we need. We meet a potential mate and instead of waiting and seeing if “that one” is God’s gift to us, we do one of three things. Either we jump into the sack with them, we marry them, or both. And in most cases She will “rub him the wrong way, Nag him, or just get tired of her” for her “He don’t take a shower every day, leaves his dirty laundry all over the place, etc, etc, etc.” and they will begin to look around, and the thoughts will enter “Wow if only I had him/her, man that person has a great sense of humor, and the grass begins to look greener.
Let me share an illustration with you, about something I figured out last year. Now we don’t have the plush green lawn, in fact it is very hard to keep brown spots, and bare areas from popping up. So I began to look around, and the neighbor across from us his lawn is, well it’s BEAUTIFUL!!! Full nice green no brown spots, no bare spots. I began to wish I had his lawn, in fact I wanted the lot his house was on. (We live in a trailer park). But when I walked across the street and stepped onto his lot, you know what I found? Your right he had brown spots, and gaps and spaces.
Our lives in marriage are exactly like that we are so busy looking at other people’s lives that we forget the reason we married our partners, we forget the things that attracted us to them. Our partners are not perfect dear one, we are not perfect, either or children are not any more perfect then we are, but gifts are given to us by God to strengthen us, to perfect us, to point us to him. When our partner goes against our grain, we should look to the Lord, when our children are on our last nerve, we should look to the Lord. Jesus tells us to come to him when we are heavy laden, and HE will give us rest. Why try to do something on your own, when you know in the end you will fail? We are not perfect but we have a father who is perfect. Focus your life on him, read his word, talk to him. All He asks is that you let him be part of your life. Will you start today?
Nicole had the umbilical cord around her neck and was lacking oxygen, skillfully the dr. removed the cord, and Nicole was born before I turned back to look. In my eyes she was perfect despite all the goo and blood there was new life. And I was a new father, without a clue how to raise a child.
When God created the heavens and the earth, He created everything his child Adam would need to survive in the garden and ultimately in the world, God created His perfect child (although Adam was probably in his mid teens, God knew exactly what to tell Adam to survive, He knew that Adam would need a mate, and created the perfect woman for him. And like all children whether we think they are perfect or not will disobey and do things to hurt us, they will test their limits just as Adam and Eve did. God said don’t they did it anyway, God had instructed them in everything yet they went their own way.
You see dear reader God gives us the perfect mate, He has given us the handbook to live in this world, yet like Adam and Eve we do what we please anyway. God knows better then anyone what exactly we need what woman for what man, what man for what woman. The problem is we think we know better than He does what we need. We meet a potential mate and instead of waiting and seeing if “that one” is God’s gift to us, we do one of three things. Either we jump into the sack with them, we marry them, or both. And in most cases She will “rub him the wrong way, Nag him, or just get tired of her” for her “He don’t take a shower every day, leaves his dirty laundry all over the place, etc, etc, etc.” and they will begin to look around, and the thoughts will enter “Wow if only I had him/her, man that person has a great sense of humor, and the grass begins to look greener.
Let me share an illustration with you, about something I figured out last year. Now we don’t have the plush green lawn, in fact it is very hard to keep brown spots, and bare areas from popping up. So I began to look around, and the neighbor across from us his lawn is, well it’s BEAUTIFUL!!! Full nice green no brown spots, no bare spots. I began to wish I had his lawn, in fact I wanted the lot his house was on. (We live in a trailer park). But when I walked across the street and stepped onto his lot, you know what I found? Your right he had brown spots, and gaps and spaces.
Our lives in marriage are exactly like that we are so busy looking at other people’s lives that we forget the reason we married our partners, we forget the things that attracted us to them. Our partners are not perfect dear one, we are not perfect, either or children are not any more perfect then we are, but gifts are given to us by God to strengthen us, to perfect us, to point us to him. When our partner goes against our grain, we should look to the Lord, when our children are on our last nerve, we should look to the Lord. Jesus tells us to come to him when we are heavy laden, and HE will give us rest. Why try to do something on your own, when you know in the end you will fail? We are not perfect but we have a father who is perfect. Focus your life on him, read his word, talk to him. All He asks is that you let him be part of your life. Will you start today?
