I feel like I'm in a losing battle against this woman. And now that we are on her field, nothing seems like its going to change.My husband refuses to realize this because this woman is his mom. I'm just really frustrated with this situation. I'm tired of living with her. I can't take it. I'm starting to resent both of them. I already keep my distance from his mom. Why does he have to wait on her hand and foot? He will clean the kitchen just to avoid his mom getting upset. Yet, when I ask him to try and keep things organized in our room, it doesn't happen. He feels that he has to lie to her about everything we do or don't do just to keep a conversation with her. She sometimes calls him about 10 times while on her break to tell him frivolous things. And he answers every single time. If my husband and I are having a critical conversation, either his mom or his little brother interrupts us without fail. Every time someone calls for him, its "important" when all they want to do is tell him something that could have waited. He doesn't say that we are busy right now. He doesn't ask his mom to wait. He asks me to wait. We have to stop what we are doing to cater to her needs. We have to run to the store multiple times because she doesn't want to get out of bed. We have to keep our door locked or else we would never get privacy. I can't talk to my husband about it because he doesn't see a problem. He gets mad and says I have an anger problem. I was upset about my mom going in and out of the hospital and I was wondering why it couldn't be me. I hate to see my mom hurt and in pain. My husband tried to comfort me but to no avail because his mom called him to her at least 3 times and I just said forget it. No, I don't want my husband to try and comfort me when i'm upset. No, I want him to keep running to his mama whenever she calls. No, I'm not first in his life. I'm second. His mom rules over him. He doesn't speak up. He does whatever she asks of him. He tries to ignore situations. He doesn't get mad at her. He gets mad at me. I'm the one who is supposed to understand. I have to accept the fact that his mom is number 1 in his life. 
