I almost made this post on my forum today, but I knew that I shouldn't. I knew that it wasn't the right place to bring this up, that it would hijack the entire thread either for the content of my post or for the fact that I was trying to make a point away from the OP... plus the fact that it was posted on a section of the forum which I don't "technically" belong, I just hang out there because that's where the conversation is, and they tolerate my existence...
... but when I saw this, I had to laugh. Take a look. This is the original post (slightly re-formatted and the author's name left out, please note that my post has nothing to do with her content and I wish this person nothing but good, positive things):
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So, why is this so interesting?
Because the exact moment I read it... I laughed at how the world is so insistent on pushing things on people that they don't need in their lives at any one time. When I read the above statement, I saw me in that statement... how? I'm not single, afterall.
Of course not, but read the following and you'll see an eerie connection:
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What's funny is I watched a bunch of these same people who will now come to the above author's rescue (the author of the original material) with all kinds of helpful support and suggestions, who were very very quick not too long ago to call child-free people "selfish".
Right... I have to admit, if I were a more terrible person, I would post this entire post in that thread just to make this point... because I can pin-point more than one of them who person around there who should be told a thing or two about how hypocritical they can be.
Shocking, I'm not quite so terrible.
So my point is... people need to just stop. Stop being jerks, stop forcing people into a life that you want for them, instead of a life they want for themselves. Leave people to live their own lives. Just... step back, for a change. The fact is, people relate to what they can understand, they support what they can understand, and the minute they don't understand? They become vile.
So child-free individuals are discriminated against, where as single individuals with... basically the same problems? Are welcomed into open arms.
Sometimes, I just want to say "Screw you, world."
... but when I saw this, I had to laugh. Take a look. This is the original post (slightly re-formatted and the author's name left out, please note that my post has nothing to do with her content and I wish this person nothing but good, positive things):
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"I believe that I am arriving to this place- where I am able to be content with singleness during this time in my life. But that doesn't stop others from constantly asking "have you found a man" or anything like that. Or trying to set me up or push me on men that I either don't have an interest in or not sure if they have an interest in me.
I don't understand why so many people seem to think that you cannot live a full life without a significant other beside you in life. And it bugs me a bit, because while I'm trying to learn to live life with God and only God, others seem to keep pushing this "you need to find a man" thing in my face.
I'm sure I'm not the only one this happens to, so I wanted to start a thread for those of us who are content with singleness and speak about how to deal with those questions and such about your relationship status."
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I don't understand why so many people seem to think that you cannot live a full life without a significant other beside you in life. And it bugs me a bit, because while I'm trying to learn to live life with God and only God, others seem to keep pushing this "you need to find a man" thing in my face.
I'm sure I'm not the only one this happens to, so I wanted to start a thread for those of us who are content with singleness and speak about how to deal with those questions and such about your relationship status."
So, why is this so interesting?
Because the exact moment I read it... I laughed at how the world is so insistent on pushing things on people that they don't need in their lives at any one time. When I read the above statement, I saw me in that statement... how? I'm not single, afterall.
Of course not, but read the following and you'll see an eerie connection:
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"I am content with being child-free during this time in my life.
But that doesn't stop others from constantly asking "are you having a baby yet" or anything like that. Or trying to tell me I'll change my mind or push baby-related things/stories on me that I either have an interest in.
I don't understand why so many people seem to think that you cannot live a full life without a child beside you in life.
And it bugs me a bit, because while I'm trying to learn to live life with God and only God, others seem to keep pushing this "you need to have a baby" thing in my face.
I'm sure I'm not the only one this happens to, so I wanted to start a thread for those of us who are content with being child-free and speak about how to deal with those questions and such about your life status."
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------But that doesn't stop others from constantly asking "are you having a baby yet" or anything like that. Or trying to tell me I'll change my mind or push baby-related things/stories on me that I either have an interest in.
I don't understand why so many people seem to think that you cannot live a full life without a child beside you in life.
And it bugs me a bit, because while I'm trying to learn to live life with God and only God, others seem to keep pushing this "you need to have a baby" thing in my face.
I'm sure I'm not the only one this happens to, so I wanted to start a thread for those of us who are content with being child-free and speak about how to deal with those questions and such about your life status."
What's funny is I watched a bunch of these same people who will now come to the above author's rescue (the author of the original material) with all kinds of helpful support and suggestions, who were very very quick not too long ago to call child-free people "selfish".
Right... I have to admit, if I were a more terrible person, I would post this entire post in that thread just to make this point... because I can pin-point more than one of them who person around there who should be told a thing or two about how hypocritical they can be.
Shocking, I'm not quite so terrible.
So my point is... people need to just stop. Stop being jerks, stop forcing people into a life that you want for them, instead of a life they want for themselves. Leave people to live their own lives. Just... step back, for a change. The fact is, people relate to what they can understand, they support what they can understand, and the minute they don't understand? They become vile.
So child-free individuals are discriminated against, where as single individuals with... basically the same problems? Are welcomed into open arms.
Sometimes, I just want to say "Screw you, world."
