Change, always change.

I spend most of my time here in the singles area and the most popular subject is relationship, of coarse. One of the things I don't understand about getting into a relationship is change. This seems to happen more with girls, but not strictly. You meet a nice bloke and you get into a relationship, but then you want him to change to suit you. If you wanted to be with the person you are trying to make him into, why did you settle for the guy you've got? I found myself in the opposite kind of situation. He didn't ask me to change, but I didn't know what else to do. I had tried to be a good wife, but he never seemed happy with me. I talked less and less, and live as a very mousy dutiful type wife. I tried to find joy where I could, but I never delved deep into my soul because I subconsciously knew what I would find there. I was miserableness. No one is perfect. You are not going to like everything about your spouse, but the key is to love, forgive, and learn to accept them for who they are. Also you have to accept them over and over, as we all change with time.

God has made us all special. I don't need to change for you and I would never ask you to change for me. (exceptions being unhealthy behavior like smoking, etc and abuse) There is some things that do change just because you are in each others lives, but I'm talking about the foundation of who a person is.

I love the flaws. Show a hurting word that there is hope beyond the valley. They are not alone in pain. We are all human and we need to be vulnerable to show it. The joys and pains of your life have formed you into who you are and that is beautiful.

As I write this, I wonder if anyone will care to read it. Even if no one ever does, I know that my heart is true and I try to embrace you with love and kindness now and always.