It's hard to believe that we've been married for four months already. There were so many things going against us that I had been starting to wonder if we would ever be able to get married. It wasn't the way I would have wanted, but my family's antagonism against our marriage forced us to take matters into our own hands.
October 23rd, 2009, I left my home for good. My mother was being verbally abusive towards Tom and I, saying that we were children because we both have Asperger's syndrome (at age 26, I was almost 27) and I would not stand for that anymore. Over MSN, Tom and I plotted to leave our places where we stayed. At the time, he was living with my grandfather, grandmother, and crazy aunt. Things were about as bad for him as it was for me. So we decided we would leave, and see how God would take care of us.
We left with $150 and $70 of food stamps to share between us for the rest of the month. We stayed in a shelter one night, and one of his friend's houses, as well as rode a bus, and also had a couple of nights in a hotel thanks to a few friends. That made us want to get married as soon as possible in case we had an opportunity to stay in another one. It was kind of awkward at first.
In November we each got $200 of food stamps and $143 in cash aid. As soon as we had enough to get married ($160 for the license and civil ceremony) we did that, on November 4th 2009, at about 2:30 PM.
At this point we were living with friends, but this arrangement was only supposed to be for a month each. He was living with friends who had boys, and I was living with friends who had girls. So we started out our marriage living in separate places. This lasted until January 13th.
Meanwhile Tom was waiting for SSI to be approved so that we could get a place to live. We have had a temporary arrangement since January 13th, but we're moving more permanently in a week and a half, and we're hoping to each become students again at the college where we met.
Four months, but it seems like less time because of how little we've actually lived in the same place. I guess you could call the week we were packing living in the same place, but other than that, it's been less than two months actually living together.
God is providing, and we'll see what he provides with our move.
October 23rd, 2009, I left my home for good. My mother was being verbally abusive towards Tom and I, saying that we were children because we both have Asperger's syndrome (at age 26, I was almost 27) and I would not stand for that anymore. Over MSN, Tom and I plotted to leave our places where we stayed. At the time, he was living with my grandfather, grandmother, and crazy aunt. Things were about as bad for him as it was for me. So we decided we would leave, and see how God would take care of us.
We left with $150 and $70 of food stamps to share between us for the rest of the month. We stayed in a shelter one night, and one of his friend's houses, as well as rode a bus, and also had a couple of nights in a hotel thanks to a few friends. That made us want to get married as soon as possible in case we had an opportunity to stay in another one. It was kind of awkward at first.
In November we each got $200 of food stamps and $143 in cash aid. As soon as we had enough to get married ($160 for the license and civil ceremony) we did that, on November 4th 2009, at about 2:30 PM.
At this point we were living with friends, but this arrangement was only supposed to be for a month each. He was living with friends who had boys, and I was living with friends who had girls. So we started out our marriage living in separate places. This lasted until January 13th.
Meanwhile Tom was waiting for SSI to be approved so that we could get a place to live. We have had a temporary arrangement since January 13th, but we're moving more permanently in a week and a half, and we're hoping to each become students again at the college where we met.
Four months, but it seems like less time because of how little we've actually lived in the same place. I guess you could call the week we were packing living in the same place, but other than that, it's been less than two months actually living together.
God is providing, and we'll see what he provides with our move.
