What's your view on anger?

[Godlovesmetwo]

What !!! You expect me to give my view first! No way! I'm just sick and tired of being sick and tired! You answer first! Yes you!!

 

[anjelica]

LOL Paul. Jesus got angry!

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

LOL Paul. Jesus got angry!

He did,didnt he. At the moneylenders in the synagogue.
I think anger is good if it only lasts for a short time and we get rid of it soon. it's when we hold it in for a long time that it becomes dangerous. It's how we express it too. Not take it out on others. I used to scream when I went for a jog and got rid of it a lot through exercise. Now I pray. It doesn't always work though, I have to admit.
Yet I sometimes read that any anger is bad for you. That any anger is temporary insanity.

 

[anjelica]

I guess anger can hurt us more than anyone else. Anger can lead to bitterness, which is NOT good.

I get angry sometimes, but I can't stay angry for long.

Don't you findthat anger is one of the most painful emotions? I do. I can't stand it. But yet we all do get angry.

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

Don't you findthat anger is one of the most painful emotions?

Depression is supposed to be suppressed anger or anger turned inward.
It can be quite painful I agree if you feel powerless to stop it. There is a level of frustration with it. If we continue to blame others, it will in fact eat us up. It is worth seeing a counsellor about if it disturbs your sleep and well-being. I haven't reached that stage yet.

 

[anjelica]

Yes, I learned that it turns to depression if suppressed.

When I was in my early twenties (I am 68 now ) I used to. Gef t r ed ho t. Anger. It wa s the most painful thing I ever knew and I could not dea l with it or b ear it.

I m ade a decision. At that point never to feel anger again. To remain calm. I mastered that because I needed to.

Nowadays I say I don't do anger, and mostly. i don't, but occasion ally. I get a fl ash of it but then have to let it go.

It never disturbs my sleep.

I guess anger s hows we. A re still a live though! A luve. A nd feeling people. But it can be so d estructive

 

[tadoflamb]

I've known some angry people in my life. They're not much fun to hang out with. I can get angry, but I'm not a angry person. I used to be when I was younger and listened to a lot of punk rock, but then, as my friend Jonathon Richman says in his song 'Affection',
"I relaxed a little bit".

All I know is that anger in/anger out is a destructive formula. I suspect it's the cause of a lot of the violence we suffer today. I think of Christ and His passion and how it would have gone for us had He followed the practice of anger in/anger out.

It's inevitable that we're going to get angry. It's natural thing. I just wonder how to process it without hurting anything.

Go birdwatching?

 

[anjelica]

I used to go birdwatching Tad but not to help anger. Actually, have you ever seen how angry those darned doves get? And seagulls too lol

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

Who me, have an anger management issue? Who said that? Next you'll be saying I'm paranoid as well!
If anyone makes anger look absurd it is John Cleese. Look how often he gets angry in Fawlty Towers as Basil. Remember his little car breaking down? Then he starts whipping it with a tree branch?
And to add to Tad's point about Jesus not being angry in the Passion. Imagine if he said "you can't crucify me! I want to speak to my lawyer. It's not fair."
Life is not fair. If we have the attitude that "life is not fair" all the time, we stay angry all the time. Also what is the use of chewing over things that happened years ago? Rumination is the devil's intervention for sure!

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

But didn't Jesus say "My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?"
What is the significance of that quote?

 

[anjelica]

LOL Paul. Fawlty Towers! Great stuff

 

[anjelica]

My God my God why have You forsaken me? Yup. His suffering was so great that He felt God had abandoned Him.i don!t believe it was anger but a cry of desolation.

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

i don!t believe it was anger but a cry of desolation.

Fine line ??
Interesting though.

 

[anjelica]

I seriously don't think in Jesus's case it was anger. But who truly knows? We are not Him, and I understand that kind of desolation which does not contain anger. Whatever, He soon was saying 'father, into Thy hands I commit my Spirit."

If Jesus was truly human though, He must have felt anger.

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

Those who take part in non-violent protests are doing something constructive with their anger. Like the anti-Vietnam protests.
If we don't have at least a bit of indignation at social injustice, there is no change.

 

[High Fidelity]

It's pretty pointless and counter-productive.

Pretty much the only times I'm angry, it only ever affects me. It doesn't change anything and it just gets me down and draws my focus off what matters more.

Thankfully I'm rarely angered nowadays and it's mostly fleeting when I am.

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

Paul would like to start an anger management therapy group for those not ashamed of their odd flare-ups. meetings will be held on Tuesdays at 9.00am Australian Western Standard Time here on TLT.

 

[Sam91]

Ephesians 4 NIV version tells us to get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander and every form of malice. It then tells us to be kind and compassionate to and forgive each other as in Christ God forgave us.

My new translation the ESV tells me to put those things away from me. I think that is a great phrase as it has helped me so much these last two days. The action of putting it away from me is so much easier than squashing it down inside. I hope that idea can help someone else too.

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

I think we need the honesty and self-awareness to say "hey I've got a problem with ______ "(anger, lust, envy, sloth and so on).I need to pray on it every day consistently. "God give me the wisdom today to notice when I am about to over-react, so I can avoid it and instead share my pain with you. "
Something like that. Maybe someone else has a better prayer or more to add.

 

[Sam91]

. "God give me the wisdom today to notice when I am about to over-react, so I can avoid it and instead share my pain with you. "

I like that turn of phrase. I hope that I remember those words when I pray tomorrow.