First read this:
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1 Corinthians 13
"If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
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Now that you've read that list of to-do's and you likely thought there is no way you can do all of those things, read this:
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
We are human and despite our state as Christians, we will still sin and make mistakes. But through being dependent on Christ, He will give us the strength to do the things that God likes. Ultimately, before you get to the list of to-dos ... God wants devotion.
He wants you to want Him, His will, and His ways more than your own.
He doesn't want to have to compete for your affection. He wants all of you.
There is so much more I could write, but this is a good start. If you want something solid that gives more explanation, check out R.C. Sproll's book Pleasing God.