So you don't want to marry someone who you find physical attractive ?
I would say "no, but" > you might wish to know what I mean. In lust, yes I want women who look attractive, but in love I am discovering so much better. And I am not enjoying how lust can still play me for a fool.
I am 76 years old, and I have discovered that God's gentle and humble and all-loving love is better in intimacy and pleasure, than my sexual attraction stuff has been.
So no I do not want lust to attract me to a person.
"not in passion of lust" (in 1 Thessalonians 4:5)
But yes I can still give in to stupidity of lust; and so I need to be corrected by God so I genuinely love each woman and am attracted in God's love in case He wants me to marry someone.
Even if a woman is not attractive like young and foolish people can be so charming - - He in His grace can make things better and nicer than lust can > "My strength is made perfect in weakness," Jesus says in 2 Corinthians 12:9.
So, if a lady is weak in being outwardly attractive, God's grace can surprise the husband He wants to marry her lololololololol
And in case a guy is judging a woman by how attractive she looks, in order to use her for pleasure, that is not attraction for reproducing children who know how to love. A wise Christian man looks for a lady who is the example he wants for bringing up their children. So, Biblical sexual attraction means reproductive interest in a woman who is maturing as a good example for children.
So, as a guy 76 years old, now I have learned this. And I am in love with a number of women who were not attractive to me, and now in love I find them attractive in their personalities, because they are sweet in Jesus. And the intimacy of personal affection and tender caring is better than being intimate with my own sexual sensations that I have been able to use a woman to get.