What about the rest of us?

[Thunder Peel]

I have a simple solution: I simply pay them $50 a week to be seen with me.

 

[white dove]

This is a question that came to me when I was reading some of the other replies in my other thread, and from some other threads on this forum here. We all know that people go for other people who are attractive to them. But not everybody is attractive. So what are we supposed to do? It seems like the only options for the singles who aren't good looking, is to choose to go for someone who is not attractive, which means you'll settle and probably won't be happy, or choose to be alone, which is kind of a crappy option too. I don't really see any other options here.

The people who would be deemed "less-attractive" by culture-centered standards find suitable mates, too. Just like some jerks find suitable mates. Boring people find suitable mates. Communists find suitable mates. With regard to the physical: It really doesn't matter how "ugly" a person is by society's standards. Anyone can find a date. Anyone can get married. The question that should be asked is why a person doesn't feel like they're good enough. Many physical "problems" can be fixed. Bushy eyebrows or uni? Wax.. or pluck (old school). Unruly/frizzy hair? Hair product... or moisturizer if you're ghetto. The sad truth is that no matter what anyone tells a person who thinks they're ugly, that person will keep believing they're ugly until the day of their demise if something does not change. We have to see in ourselves the positive things that we bring to the table.. because each and every one of us does. So you have a cleft chin. So what. John Travolta has one and many women consider(ed) him to be the ultimate sex symbol. Why? I don't know, but he is/was for those women!

Truth is, you will never be happy if you keep finding faults within yourself and nothing more. Are you imperfect? Heck yeah, you are! But guess what, so is every other person who has ever lived and ever will live (except Jesus ).


So here are your options: Be happy with who you are, faults and all. Try to change a few things you don't like about yourself; see what works/what doesn't. Or just be prepared to be miserable for the rest of your days. Because I'm tellin' ya... even if you DO get married and still feel so ugly inside, what is it really worth if you still feel so awful about yourself?

 

[er72]

The people who would be deemed "less-attractive" by culture-centered standards find suitable mates, too. Just like some jerks find suitable mates. Boring people find suitable mates. Communists find suitable mates. With regard to the physical: It really doesn't matter how "ugly" a person is by society's standards. Anyone can find a date. Anyone can get married. The question that should be asked is why a person doesn't feel like they're good enough. Many physical "problems" can be fixed. Bushy eyebrows or uni? Wax.. or pluck (old school). Unruly/frizzy hair? Hair product... or moisturizer if you're ghetto. The sad truth is that no matter what anyone tells a person who thinks they're ugly, that person will keep believing they're ugly until the day of their demise if something does not change. We have to see in ourselves the positive things that we bring to the table.. because each and every one of us does. So you have a cleft chin. So what. John Travolta has one and many women consider(ed) him to be the ultimate sex symbol. Why? I don't know, but he is/was for those women!

Truth is, you will never be happy if you keep finding faults within yourself and nothing more. Are you imperfect? Heck yeah, you are! But guess what, so is every other person who has ever lived and ever will live (except Jesus ).


So here are your options: Be happy with who you are, faults and all. Try to change a few things you don't like about yourself; see what works/what doesn't. Or just be prepared to be miserable for the rest of your days. Because I'm tellin' ya... even if you DO get married and still feel so ugly inside, what is it really worth if you still feel so awful about yourself?

This is true advice.