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Okay... I'm asking this for my sister E and her boyfriend M.
She has always envisioned a big wedding, a reception with dinner and a first dance and the whole thing...
Her bf wants to elope and come back and send out announcements and be done with it.
So to compromise she said, if we have a private wedding will you have a party (not wedding reception style, just a party to celebrate with friends). He agreed. Here's where it gets tuff...
By private she meant their mom's and siblings... by private he meant JUST the two of them. She asked my opinion....
I said that I think that at a minimum they should have their mom's there. (being as they want to and they gave them life). Fine if they don't want siblings (although I'd be sad to miss it). Also, I think she should have the mom's as witnesses since you legally have to have 2 in our state anyway. Why not have them instead of strangers?
He said to my sister "I'll do whatever you want, but I'll be miserable".
Ultimatly it will be up to E and M... but she's crying because she knows whatever she does at this point, people are going to be upset. She wants to make sure she doesn't upset her husband on what is also HIS wedding day, but can't imagine having the day with out our mom there either.
What would you do?
She has always envisioned a big wedding, a reception with dinner and a first dance and the whole thing...
Her bf wants to elope and come back and send out announcements and be done with it.
So to compromise she said, if we have a private wedding will you have a party (not wedding reception style, just a party to celebrate with friends). He agreed. Here's where it gets tuff...
By private she meant their mom's and siblings... by private he meant JUST the two of them. She asked my opinion....
I said that I think that at a minimum they should have their mom's there. (being as they want to and they gave them life). Fine if they don't want siblings (although I'd be sad to miss it). Also, I think she should have the mom's as witnesses since you legally have to have 2 in our state anyway. Why not have them instead of strangers?
He said to my sister "I'll do whatever you want, but I'll be miserable".
Ultimatly it will be up to E and M... but she's crying because she knows whatever she does at this point, people are going to be upset. She wants to make sure she doesn't upset her husband on what is also HIS wedding day, but can't imagine having the day with out our mom there either.
What would you do?