Hey everyone,
Wanted to get peoples advice on my situation. I have been married over 10 years to my husband. Generally he's been a good husband. We've never had any major marriage issues. Over the last year and a half there have been some negative changes to our relationship. He took a promotion that caused him to work a crazy amount of hours and caused a lot of stress for him. It naturally flowed over into our marriage. He became distant and short tempered (caused by the stress). There were a number of times where I came to him with my concerns and he would either brush them off or get angry that I wasn't appreciating all his hard work and I was being too sensitive and selfish. About 4 months ago he stepped down from that position because he couldn't deal with the stress anymore (Thank the Lord). Even though he is less stressed and has more time for me he hasn't much changed when it comes to conflicts. I am feeling, still, neglected at times, not appreciated, and any time I talk to him about a topic he may not agree with he automatically deems me "disrespectful" and will blow up on me. There have been times in our marriage where I felt I couldn't even talk to my own husband out of fear of his reaction and misunderstanding, but never more then now.
I asked him today to be praying for me as I am struggling with our relationship. He said he would and asked me to pray for him as well and that he knows he needs to "put more effort into it". He has said this to me in the past but I don't really notice a difference usually. To him, merely saying he will do something means he actually is doing it. (He is good at talking but not so good on follow through).So my question is, what do I do while I wait for him to show more effort, besides pray for him? Do I just go on like everything is fine knowing that if Im not obviously mad at him he will think he is actually doing something? Do I bring it up again if I haven't seen a difference? Should I ask him what specifically he plans to do?
Wanted to get peoples advice on my situation. I have been married over 10 years to my husband. Generally he's been a good husband. We've never had any major marriage issues. Over the last year and a half there have been some negative changes to our relationship. He took a promotion that caused him to work a crazy amount of hours and caused a lot of stress for him. It naturally flowed over into our marriage. He became distant and short tempered (caused by the stress). There were a number of times where I came to him with my concerns and he would either brush them off or get angry that I wasn't appreciating all his hard work and I was being too sensitive and selfish. About 4 months ago he stepped down from that position because he couldn't deal with the stress anymore (Thank the Lord). Even though he is less stressed and has more time for me he hasn't much changed when it comes to conflicts. I am feeling, still, neglected at times, not appreciated, and any time I talk to him about a topic he may not agree with he automatically deems me "disrespectful" and will blow up on me. There have been times in our marriage where I felt I couldn't even talk to my own husband out of fear of his reaction and misunderstanding, but never more then now.
I asked him today to be praying for me as I am struggling with our relationship. He said he would and asked me to pray for him as well and that he knows he needs to "put more effort into it". He has said this to me in the past but I don't really notice a difference usually. To him, merely saying he will do something means he actually is doing it. (He is good at talking but not so good on follow through).So my question is, what do I do while I wait for him to show more effort, besides pray for him? Do I just go on like everything is fine knowing that if Im not obviously mad at him he will think he is actually doing something? Do I bring it up again if I haven't seen a difference? Should I ask him what specifically he plans to do?