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All of this talk about the sexuality/non-sexuality of kissing has had me thinking about this topic again.
What do you all, specifically the Christian men on here, think about waiting on kissing? What are your honest thoughts?
I ask because I have been considering for some time waiting for my next kiss. Specifically, I've been seriously thinking about holding off on kissing until I'm engaged.
It may sound silly, but I have a reason for seriously considering this. I know myself and my weaknesses. I've learned from mistakes I've made in past relationships. Any sort of kissing beyond innocent, short pecks on the lips gets my mind going places it shouldn't. I get too into it and while I can stop myself most of the time, I know that if I keep up things like making out in a relationship, eventually I'll slip up and go too far. I don't want to dishonor God like that, I don't want to cause a man I love and respect to sin in that manner, and I don't want jeopardize any future relationship because of a slip-up. I don't mind kissing in a relationship necessarily, but I'm very cautious about starting it early because innocent kissing tends to become boring after too long of doing only that and then the temptation is to want to keep going further and further. But I figure, if I wait until an engagement to start that whole process, there's a much smaller chance of a slip up because we won't have to wait as long until we're married. Does any of that make sense?
Men, I would really appreciate your opinions. How many of you would honestly be perfectly fine and respectful about a woman you're with who wanted to wait until you were engaged to kiss? Would this be something you'd embrace in the relationship and be excited about? Would it be something you'd reluctantly agree to only because you truly love her and want to respect her and God? Or is it something you wouldn't feel you could put up with? Would you consider it a dealbreaker?
What do you all, specifically the Christian men on here, think about waiting on kissing? What are your honest thoughts?
I ask because I have been considering for some time waiting for my next kiss. Specifically, I've been seriously thinking about holding off on kissing until I'm engaged.
It may sound silly, but I have a reason for seriously considering this. I know myself and my weaknesses. I've learned from mistakes I've made in past relationships. Any sort of kissing beyond innocent, short pecks on the lips gets my mind going places it shouldn't. I get too into it and while I can stop myself most of the time, I know that if I keep up things like making out in a relationship, eventually I'll slip up and go too far. I don't want to dishonor God like that, I don't want to cause a man I love and respect to sin in that manner, and I don't want jeopardize any future relationship because of a slip-up. I don't mind kissing in a relationship necessarily, but I'm very cautious about starting it early because innocent kissing tends to become boring after too long of doing only that and then the temptation is to want to keep going further and further. But I figure, if I wait until an engagement to start that whole process, there's a much smaller chance of a slip up because we won't have to wait as long until we're married. Does any of that make sense?
Men, I would really appreciate your opinions. How many of you would honestly be perfectly fine and respectful about a woman you're with who wanted to wait until you were engaged to kiss? Would this be something you'd embrace in the relationship and be excited about? Would it be something you'd reluctantly agree to only because you truly love her and want to respect her and God? Or is it something you wouldn't feel you could put up with? Would you consider it a dealbreaker?
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