I have found this balance in my life so difficult and it's really effecting me hard right now and it's causing so much pain. When I was a child & teenager I never talked much & was in my head most of the time. I hate the sound of my own voice & feel easily uncomfortable & intimidated by social situations, even though I get really interested & facinated by really intelligent people.
I wasn't exactly bullied by family or school to talk but it was very strongly encouraged & now that I do talk it's like I can't control it when I am around family. I still pretty much never talk in public.
I really like sharing what I learn especially about faith & God but I tend to 'talk at' people instead of 'talking to' people - they pointed this out as a source of frustration to them. It really frustrates me when they interupt because I worry that I'll forget a really good piece of information I think they'd like, they don't have as much time as me to take in information & my memory helps to assimilate information easier so I feel like I filter it & help them by what I do - it's my way of communicating & contributing because it's difficult for me in other ways that are easy for them. My mum has a habit of just walking out of the room & it really upsets me at the time & then I spend hours feeling really worthless & guilty that I annoyed her when all I meant to do was share something that interested me & might interest her too as a fellow Christian.
I wish I could be mute and then no one would get angry or upset with me & I'd please God by not babbling like a pagan or being boastful or proud. I've told them I don't mean to be exhuasting or annoying & that I hurt too but I don't know how to stop talking now & the few times I've made myself not talk for days they get worried that I'm getting depressed again or the opposite & they say I'm doing much better when I feel like I'm dying inside.
Please if you have any tips for staying quiet but looking happy & ok please share them with me. I'm praying for God to help me control my runaway mouth & for this hurt to just go away.
I wasn't exactly bullied by family or school to talk but it was very strongly encouraged & now that I do talk it's like I can't control it when I am around family. I still pretty much never talk in public.
I really like sharing what I learn especially about faith & God but I tend to 'talk at' people instead of 'talking to' people - they pointed this out as a source of frustration to them. It really frustrates me when they interupt because I worry that I'll forget a really good piece of information I think they'd like, they don't have as much time as me to take in information & my memory helps to assimilate information easier so I feel like I filter it & help them by what I do - it's my way of communicating & contributing because it's difficult for me in other ways that are easy for them. My mum has a habit of just walking out of the room & it really upsets me at the time & then I spend hours feeling really worthless & guilty that I annoyed her when all I meant to do was share something that interested me & might interest her too as a fellow Christian.
I wish I could be mute and then no one would get angry or upset with me & I'd please God by not babbling like a pagan or being boastful or proud. I've told them I don't mean to be exhuasting or annoying & that I hurt too but I don't know how to stop talking now & the few times I've made myself not talk for days they get worried that I'm getting depressed again or the opposite & they say I'm doing much better when I feel like I'm dying inside.
Please if you have any tips for staying quiet but looking happy & ok please share them with me. I'm praying for God to help me control my runaway mouth & for this hurt to just go away.