Yes, Yes, yes.
Rainbowbright, let me tell you something. Ufonium2 is right on. Don't let a child stay and disrupt the services, but when you take him out, make it miserable.
I have 5, ages 2,4,5 9 and 13. When I started attending they were younger. We attend a monastary because it was 5 minutes from the house. The parishes were over an hour away. Try to get 5 children ready for church at the crack of dawn and drive an hour for an hour 1/2 services. They are cranky mean at that point, starving to death etc. So we go to the monastery.
Tile floorsare tile, metal folding chairs. Everything echoes. There is no formal narthex, it is more of a temporary chapel. There is no place to escape but outside, and what a blessing that is. When they act up, I would take them outside, in the heat, in the cold, even in the rain. We would just stand there, the child whinning to go back to mom, to get be anyplace but
there. When he/she had collected themselves, we went back in.
I know the frustrations of having to "monitor" the children. I was always pulling someones hand out of their pocket. Chasing them away from the candles so they don't go up in spontaneous human combustion. Placing my foot or leg against a chair so it doesn't scrape like nails on a chalkboard sliding accross the floor. Stopping incesant twirling, hopping in place, nose picking, humming, giggling foot tappings, the lifting of one's skirt over her head or another trying to pull my pants down. Picking another up from rolling on the floor, knuckle cracking, having my face molded like putty, diaper removals, crashes and stumbles of all sorts.
And that was a good day. I too have a strongwilled child. Actually I have two of them. I have spent many liturgies exiting to the church for long periods. 1st with one child, then another, and sometimes even with a third.
Guess what? They got better. After a few months (yes, I did say months
the Lord gave me strength) they began to be quiet. They adapted. It has been a huge improvement.
I am a strong believer of children staying in the services. There is grace there, even amidst all of the distractions.