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I really don't want to hurt anybody. But because of my aversion towards physical contact with people, I hurt people. I have told people that I prefer to avoid physical contact. Another Christian lady touched my hand to get my attention and I asked her not to; and she was very offended. I asked her not to touch me. It was not personal against her. I don't hate her. I don't feel hostility towards her. I just don't trust her like I don't trust anyone. I don't exactly hate physical contact. But me avoiding physical contact is how I protect my heart.
I will hug my friends only. But I don't like to randomly hug people. At church there are old ladies that are huggers. They will come up to me and me a hug. And that bothers me. I hug them back. But I am annoyed.
I don't go to church anymore. But I am thinking of going back. I am just trying to figure out what to do if I am in the situation like that when I go back. There is a church across the street that I want to go to. I am just wondering if it is wrong for me to tell them that I would rather avoid physical contact. I have to get to know people for a long time before I start hugging them.
And sometimes even after getting to know them I still don't want to be touched. People have told me that I should probably yo want to be touched. People have told me that I should probably get therapy, but I don't think it's a problem. I don't think I need help about this. Avoiding physical contact does not hurt anybody (physically I mean). And nobody is dying if I tell them not to touch me. So why do I need to go get therapy?
Is it a sin for me to tell people that I prefer to avoid physical contact? Is it unloving? Can I love other people without hugging them or just avoiding physical contact?
I really don't want to offend people.
What is the best way to go about this?
I will hug my friends only. But I don't like to randomly hug people. At church there are old ladies that are huggers. They will come up to me and me a hug. And that bothers me. I hug them back. But I am annoyed.
I don't go to church anymore. But I am thinking of going back. I am just trying to figure out what to do if I am in the situation like that when I go back. There is a church across the street that I want to go to. I am just wondering if it is wrong for me to tell them that I would rather avoid physical contact. I have to get to know people for a long time before I start hugging them.
And sometimes even after getting to know them I still don't want to be touched. People have told me that I should probably yo want to be touched. People have told me that I should probably get therapy, but I don't think it's a problem. I don't think I need help about this. Avoiding physical contact does not hurt anybody (physically I mean). And nobody is dying if I tell them not to touch me. So why do I need to go get therapy?
Is it a sin for me to tell people that I prefer to avoid physical contact? Is it unloving? Can I love other people without hugging them or just avoiding physical contact?
I really don't want to offend people.
What is the best way to go about this?
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