It's not your impression, it's reality. The USA should not have stretched near the Russian borders and make Ukraine it's own puppet. Putin and the Russian government have said many times since 2008 to back off from the Russian borders. The USA and EU did not respect that. This conflict in Ukraine started in 2014 backed by the EU and USA.
Here's a video explaining the situation, why this is happening. This is the best accurate video (non-propagandist) I've seen thus far.
The only reason "civilians" are dying is because the USA and EU are supporting them with weapons and on the order of Zelensky and the neo nazi Azov battalion ordinary men are getting armed to put a fight against the soldiers. Men aged 16-60 cannot leave Ukraine. Zelensky should be condemned for what he is doing and playing the so called "hero".