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Who says we are?Spanking is a part of many cultures. Who are we to impose more cultural imperialism on others?
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Who says we are?Spanking is a part of many cultures. Who are we to impose more cultural imperialism on others?
If toddlers are able to reach for hot stuff. You're not doing your job. In protecting them. By the time a child's 6 years old. They should know not to touch hot stuff. If they don't no better, then you haven't taught them. Things happen because grown ups screw up. I don't care if someone spanks a child, because they try to touch a pot. But that's your fault if they can.Bologna.
Parents are humans, and kids are too. Things happen, and you move on. Kids will reach for the hot pot even after you teach them not to touch. Not every single one, but it does happen. That's what kids do.
Is this a serious question?Spanking is a part of many cultures. Who are we to impose more cultural imperialism on others?
Your immense distrust of CPS is noted and not entirely baseless. This doesn't mean it is without merit or that we need a different organization to deal with this issue.
Nice effort at derailment.
Oh, please. CPS was brought up by another, to which I responded.
Those 'traditions' have been known to get kids killed, just fyi.Dr. Baumrind argued that, without compelling evidence that spanking is harmful, parents should be free to rear their children in accordance with their own values and traditions.
What kind of monster uses "plastic tubing" to threaten/beat children, or hits babies with switches or spoons? I can't even bear to think about the terrible things done to these children in the name of "the Bible."In the last seven years, the deaths of three children – all adopted – have been attributed to use of the Pearls’ book. 4-year-old Sean Paddock was killed by his adoptive mother Lynn Paddock in 2006, 7-year-old Lydia Schatz was killed by her adoptive parents Kevin and Elizabeth in 2010, and 13-year-old Hana Williams was killed by her adoptive parents Larry and Carri in 2011. In all three cases, the parents were convicted of murder.
Alicia Bayer, who has written extensively about the Pearls for Examiner.com, notes that their training methods include:
Hana Williams, the most recent victim of the Pearls’ methods, died after having been beaten, starved, and left outside to suffer hypothermia.
- Using plastic tubing to beat children, since it is “too light to cause damage to the muscle or the bone”
- Wearing the plastic tubing around the parent’s neck as a constant reminder to obey
- “Swatting” babies as young as six months old with instruments such as “a 12-inch willowy branch,” thinner plastic tubing or a wooden spoon
- “Blanket training” babies by hitting them with an instrument if they try to crawl off a blanket on the floor
- Beating older children with rulers, paddles, belts and larger tree branches
- “Training” children with pain before they even disobey, in order to teach total obedience
- Giving cold water baths, putting children outside in cold weather and withholding meals as discipline
- Hosing off children who have potty training accidents
- Inflicting punishment until a child is “without breath to complain”
Spanking is a part of many cultures. Who are we to impose more cultural imperialism on others?
Because as we all know, forceful contact with a human hand magically sends logic and critical thinking skills to the brain. I suppose I should smack myself upside the head before every exam.Partly, yeah.
Yes, this is because spanking does not always have negative effects. If it's mild, and the parents compensate for it in other ways, the child is usually fine. In these cases, spanking has a neutral effect, and then the outcome of the child is based on how they parented apart from the spankings. They know what they're talking about better than you do.Studies say it's good for the child and others say it's harmful. What this shows that the "experts" don't know what their talking about. Here is what a couple of studies said:
"When parents are loving and firm and communicate well with the child,'' Dr. Baumrind said, ''the children are exceptionally competent and well adjusted, whether or not their parents spanked them as preschoolers.''
Spanking never worked on me. Writing sentences over and over however did. There are much better and creative punishments that do work.
Because as we all know, forceful contact with a human hand magically sends logic and critical thinking skills to the brain. I suppose I should smack myself upside the head before every exam.
Yes, this is because spanking does not always have negative effects. If it's mild, and the parents compensate for it in other ways, the child is usually fine. In these cases, spanking has a neutral effect, and then the outcome of the child is based on how they parented apart from the spankings. They know what they're talking about better than you do.
My whole point was that I don't see any disagreement in what you posted.So if the "experts" know better which experts do not?
Which got the job done as far as your parents having to deal with you, but I personally want to teach my kids that there isn't always going to be the threat of getting caught and facing tangible consequences. They'll learn to want to avoid the action itself rather than a punishment, just as I did.I was spanked a few times when I was a kid when I truly did something wrong.
You know what? It taught me to fear doing something wrong, funny that.
It really impresses me that some people can look at 50 years of studies including 161.000 children and then say "Well, it didn't harm me, so it can't be so bad".
A parent that wants to make an informed decision on the issue of spanking can base this decision on the studies for and against it.What about the other research that says its not harmful at all. Some studies say it's bad and others back up that it's good for kids. What it comes down to is what are you as a parent comfortable with in child rearing. Not only does some say it's good for child development, but also from experience as both from my own childhood and as a parent knows it works and when done right it, it can bring out alot of positive in children.