Peripatetic
Restless mind, peaceful soul.
my experience was that as long as I focused only on her, devoted myself to her entirely, even in the career and hobby choices I have made, the thoughts you are talking about never appeared.
I don't see this as practical for two reasons:
1. A person needs balance in his life. The type of constant attention to one person would be smothering. Even when you are married, it's important to have time away, different interests, friends, etc.
2. The "thoughts" you are talking about just don't go away. We are always going to be tempted. The proper way to deal with temptation is not silence it, but to avoid (or flee from) the situations that cause it.
I haven't read your other threads, but it sounds like you have a career or hobby that directly has to do with attractive women and you are trying to see if you can keep it but shift your desires into friendly indifference. Most men would not be able to do that.
Nevertheless, I am curious about your last statement. "Not everyone is wired to stay committed to just one woman" - are you talking about this from a religious standpoint or merely from worldly experience? Because if you're talking about it from a religious standpoint, I would like to know what God would like such people to do. Become priests?
Both. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 reads, "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."
So you see, being unmarried (as Paul was) is a good thing! Nothing wrong with it. If you are the type of person that is very extroverted and wants to have close friendships with different attractive woman, single life may be for you. But if you start to burn with passion, you should choose one woman as your wife and be dedicated to her... you can't have it both ways unless you want to live a life of worldly pleasure. Just know that if you go that route, you will always feel an emptiness and will never find true contentment.
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