I need some advice on how to pull him up.
My boyfriend was raped twice by a babysitter and a family friend when he was six years old and eight. He is now 23, where as I am 22, and still dealing with the everyday nightmare of these memories. He has never delt with the issues and continues to push them down. He has only recently told his father, while his mother knew all along but never said anything.
I'd like to note, though, that he moved to America from his home country with his dad and brother when he was eleven. He has not seen his mother since then.
I have many friends whom have been raped or assaulted, but all of them women. I'm not saying the trauma is worse for a man, just different. His view on sex growing up was that it disgusted him. Up to the point of us starting to date, thinking/talking about sex or anything of that nature made him want to vomit. He admits that it still gets him a sick occasionally. Occasionally he sometimes caves in on himself with depression, and pulls away from all of society; it kills me every time.
How can I help him? What can I do to support him? By the Grace of God I have never been touched/raped so I don't know what to say or do in this situation. Other than encouraging him to seek counseling, which he is doing currently, is there anything else I can do?
My boyfriend was raped twice by a babysitter and a family friend when he was six years old and eight. He is now 23, where as I am 22, and still dealing with the everyday nightmare of these memories. He has never delt with the issues and continues to push them down. He has only recently told his father, while his mother knew all along but never said anything.
I'd like to note, though, that he moved to America from his home country with his dad and brother when he was eleven. He has not seen his mother since then.
I have many friends whom have been raped or assaulted, but all of them women. I'm not saying the trauma is worse for a man, just different. His view on sex growing up was that it disgusted him. Up to the point of us starting to date, thinking/talking about sex or anything of that nature made him want to vomit. He admits that it still gets him a sick occasionally. Occasionally he sometimes caves in on himself with depression, and pulls away from all of society; it kills me every time.
How can I help him? What can I do to support him? By the Grace of God I have never been touched/raped so I don't know what to say or do in this situation. Other than encouraging him to seek counseling, which he is doing currently, is there anything else I can do?