groundhog said:
So it's okay for you to expect us to tolerate what YOU believe, but it's not okay for you to tolerate what WE believe? Am I understanding you correctly? Don't you see that such a statement is self-defeating? By stating "I don't think that you can have a tolerance...", you are actually stating you don't tolerate something. In this case, you don't tolerate intolerance.
You seem to have some trouble separating a person from an idea.
I tolerate you the person. However, that I tolerate you as a person doesn't mean that I can't disagree and argue against your stance on any particular issue. You're more than welcome to disagree with me, however, if you don't tolerate me as a person, that's where I start to have problems.
I'm not out to keep you from holding public office, or marry someone you love (or with someone who is rich or has a rich parent). I tolerate your religion pretty much everywhere, considering that it is all around me much of the time. My brother tolerates people that share your values, background, and religion as a veteran U.S. Marine.
Yet, when I ask for the same consideration, I'm rebuffed. You don't allow me the same considerations. I don't see how I'm required to tolerate you as a person, and can't expect the same consideration.
But please don't pretend that means I have to "tolerate" your ideas they way I tolerate you as a person. I disagree with you, you disagree with me. That's fine. I can live with that. That's not what concerns me at all.
groundhog said:
Again, that would dictate that you are required to tolerate US as much as you want us to tolerate YOU.
You're more than welcome to call for God to clean all of us homosexuals off the face of the earth with fire. You're free to tell me that I'm going to hell. You're free to call me an abomination for being both gay and unconcerned about the fact that I'm gay.
But as soon as you tell me that I don't have the same basic rights (and the courts have ruled that marriage is a right) as your average hetersexual, that's when I begin to care.
groundhog said:
Is it loving to allow a child to play with matches and burn himself? If you tell the child it's wrong, and he doesn't believe it is, does that mean you are being hateful by telling him it's wrong?
Interesting analogy, but I disagree that it addresses the situation. I could point out that this website forbids me from telling you that Christianity is wrong, and extolling the virtues of Buddhism. Am I being hateful by not breaking the rules of CF even though I believe that you are on the wrong path?
groundhog said:
I'll take it into consideration.
Thank you, it's much easier to reply this way.