I'll echo everyone else, especially gracepaints.
DH and I have been married for almost 2 years now, but we had our church wedding June 2007... so for most folks' perspective, it's been a year only. (anyway. . . )
We have had a really crazy year. I can't blame it on JD at all, it's just been a crazy kinda year. There's been health issues, a wedding, his birth, a coming out, and a death, depression issues (not me, FIL) and financial woes (all around) and a new baby on the way (our friends who got married).
I have been really stressed, super busy, and our relationship has changed a lot. It's like we're actually having the honeymoon period *now* that we never had to begin with... he gets on my nerves at things he just doesn't notice or consider, because he is an only child and really leaning towards asberger's.
Things that I would not dream of saying or doing because we have a child, He just does and then goes "Oh, was I out of place?" LOL
I love him to death, our son thinks the sun and moon rise and shine on daddy (and he wakes up even if he was only asleep 1 minute if he hears him)... and daddy can do no wrong in Jona's eyes.
Mommy's here every day, all day - and she gets boring, much as he loves me.
You can just tell. The one thing though that is awesome is that he can be so sleepy and hungry, and mommy has "the magic" to make it all better.
As far as DH and me with JD, well we're slowly getting on the same page. I have to say, after the Pedi appt we had on Friday he was on the same page and did actually stand up for me. He also stands up when other people comment on things we've already agreed upon and don't want to put up for discussion.
The bad thing, is when we don't meet eye to eye or the times he just doesn't think of me being tired and it takes me having a melt down for him to realize.
I believe though that he will eventually figure it out. Onlies always have a harder time with that I think, if they aren't already used to thinking of/for others.
I don't believe like others that one needs to wait that magical 1-2 years for time alone before having little ones. Only you and G-d know that timeframe needed.
The biggest thing I believe is being on the same page and working towards that. . . and patience (one thing I haven't lots of, but probably due to my malabsorption issues and needing lots of b vitamins - they coat your nerve receptors)
Hope that helps