No, I don't gossip. I'd have to have people in my life to gossip about or interactions with others to overhear gossip. I'm in the clear.
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Gossip is hard to define. "I heard from a guy on the radio who claimed to have insider knowledge that the Giants are going to go after so-and-so with their first round pick." is gossip. I'm not sure that's sinful though.
Gossip could ran a whole spectrum of things: from the most trivial, obvious, and good things. Saying to other people that your friend has a dog is pretty inconsequential. It could also be malicious, based off of bad hearsay, and just jabbering something you were supposed to keep a secret. The one that always irks me is when the females in my family start talking about other people. Mostly due to the fact that the topic revolving those said people is unpleasant and at times baseless. You guys are probably aware of how it goes:
Did you hear about Mr. X?
No, what?
Well, I heard.
STOP RIGHT THERE! People conjure up all sorts of stupid assumptions and you want to damage someone's opinion about somebody or even their own freaking reputation over hearsay?
I'll just add as the article pointed out that men can be just as bad or worse.
if i know i know.It is human nature to want yo know a secret, or something remarkable that is little known. We look for sensational headlines, we buy tabloids, and we watch TMZ, becsuse "insider" knowledge makes us feel either a part of something or superior to it. Perhaps we should ask ourselves if we as Pope Francis puts it, partake in the dark joy of gossip.
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http://aleteia.org/blogs/the-daily-catch/daily-poll-do-you-partake-in-the-dark-joy/
if i know i know.
if i dont i dont.
i am ok either way.
if someone says so and so is in jail - i ask why.
they say it in front of me...i wonder why.
if they say they cant say - then im still good.
cos i expect no one to betray trust.
Gossip is hard to define. "I heard from a guy on the radio who claimed to have insider knowledge that the Giants are going to go after so-and-so with their first round pick." is gossip. I'm not sure that's sinful though.
I feel same. It is hard to define but I think it is the intent behind the 'gossip' that makes it sinful.
I always thought it meant to do harm to another by smearing them. Or spreading things true or untrue to ruin their reputation. As someone here said previously, if you can't say to them, you should probably not say it.
I think there is a difference when you are looking to address a concern for no other reason than resolution.
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Vey sad it was inside the church.Who knows what can do harm, though? What may sound harmless to us might be very much more meaningful to someone else. Good intentions are really not enough, imo.
I had a Vicar who turned against me, but was not honest about it. He listened to any gossip he could find about what I was or was not doing, and used it against me. He ignored the good, and magnified any suggestion that people were unhappy. People talking about me did not always know that they were contributing to his behaviour, but they were. And those who disliked me found a ready ear to anything negative at all that they could come up with; they said what they liked and he believed it. Meanwhile, I said nothing bad about them.
Very nasty stuff.
Gossip is hard to define. "I heard from a guy on the radio who claimed to have insider knowledge that the Giants are going to go after so-and-so with their first round pick." is gossip. I'm not sure that's sinful though.
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Vey sad it was inside the church.
I disagree. I think there is a difference between sharing intelligence (information) and gossip. The line can be fine but I think you know when you've crossed it.
Your above example is just sharing information.
What I'm not sure of this: A lot of times I have facts about people and suppositions those facts drawn me toward. Now, if asked by someone involved in a situation I might give them the facts I have and tell them to draw their own conclusions knowing (or at least assuming) what those conclusions will be.
It's not straight tell someone something about which I have no direct knowledge but it might be over the line as to sharing information.
I don't know.
Gossip makes gossip sinful? ??No, it is the gossip that makes it sinful.
Something can be true and still be gossip though.....If we do not know for a fact that what we are saying is true, then we should not repeat it.
Ugh. Facebook!I'm fairly cranky over someone i dont know [on facebook - friend of a friend] who reportedly ran her mouth about me to ppl i do know.
Well, one i was starting to know.
We kind of dont chat so much anymore.
IMHO - it wasnt her biz to talk about me, she didnt even know me.
Gossip makes gossip sinful? ??
It is indeed the intent (mostly if not entirely) that makes it sinful. If someone goes "did you hear joe and betty are getting divorced? I hear he cheated and....." That is sinful. But if it's "hey did you hear joe got a new car? I hear it's really nice" that is hardly sinful.
Something can be true and still be gossip though.....