I have a friend from church who wants to practice social skills with me in the new year. The only problem is that he has a new kid which makes time difficult.
I also chat with one woman my age from Church by text. She came up to me. I could have never come up to her to talk, I would have been too afraid.
Most people enjoy good listeners more than good conversationalists!
You can become a wonderful listener, and also be a comfort to others as the Lord directs.
Anyway, the Bible tells us to be quick to listen and and slow to speak!
You can illicit conversation from others with statements, like…
So how is it going with you? How are your kids getting along? I hear you got a new pet/home/job and wonder if that is working out well.
Comments like these can keep things friendly…
No kidding? That’s great. Or - I’m sorry to hear that. And so on.
When they talk use body language that shows you are really being attentive. Nod your head sympathetically. Purse your lips, and knit your brows a little bit, as if you’re thinking about what they said. Again, these kinds of things can be practiced in the mirror.
You may want to just flat out tell some people that you feel are pretty trustworthy that you have autism, and that sometimes you have difficulty with conversation, but that you love to listen!
Make mental, or even written, notes about things they have told you so you can ask about them later.
Again, there are lots of websites, and videos on YouTube, that can help with social skills.
I pray that the Lord will bring you into peace and comfort in communicating with others.