I think this is where you and I fundamentally disagree. It's not a matter of ignoring or RE-interpreting scripture because there is no single baseline interpretation to change. There are hundreds of passages in the Bible for which learned theologians (who have studied "the whole of scripture") do not agree.
Consider John 3:5: "Jesus answered, 'I tell you the truth, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is born of water and the Spirit.'"
What does this mean? The Bible Knowledge Commentary describes five different "accepted" views: 1. Water = natural birth, spirit = birth from above; 2. water = the Word of God; 3. water = Baptism as an essential part of regeneration; 4. water = symbol of the Holy Spirit; 5. water = repentance (because water was used as a symbol for cleansing).
How do you know which one is right? Someone who believes in Baptism as "an essential part of regeneration" would say that it couldn't be more clear, while others would explain the context and why it shouldn't be taken literally. That same person may claim that another passage is obviously literal and dismiss the alternate contextual meaning. This is what is known as Confirmation Bias: favoring data (ie. literal interpretation vs. contextual explanation) that supports a preconception.
I saw a great example of this on a web site about tattoos. The author said that Leviticus 19:28 prohibits tattoos, therefore tattoos are sinful. When countering a question about the verse right before it that prohibits cutting hair and trimming a beard, the author said that you have to consider the context, the culture at the time, and that it related to the verse about sorcery and divination. Most unbiased readers would probably infer either that both of those passages were literal rules or that both were contextually linked to pagan culture and the verse about sorcery. FYI: I don't particularly like tattoos, so this isn't about the substance of the argument... just using it as an example of the author's confirmation bias and apparent blindness to it.
Think of the hundreds upon hundreds of verses that have multiple accepted meanings, linguistic nuances, lost idioms, unknown contexts, etc. Now, consider the fact that our interpretations of all of these come from what we've been taught or conclusions that we've reached on our own. There are only two possibilities:
1. One or more human beings was granted the gift of inerrant Biblical interpretation and has directly or indirectly passed it on to me without distortion. Those who have other interpretations are wrong.
OR
2. No human being (other than Jesus) has been granted the gift of inerrant Biblical interpretation. My theological understanding is based on a combination of mostly good, but flawed teachings and my own imperfect inferences. I am confident that most of my views are correct, but I am unsure of some of them and concede that those with different interpretations may be right.
I chose #2.
Again, relativism says that there is more than one system of truth. I'm saying that there is only one perfect system of truth, but we aren't capable of knowing all of it. We know the important foundational aspects, but some debatable matters are not knowable by God's design. I believe that that lack of complete knowledge is part of our humility. The understanding that God gives us is sufficient, and we trust in him the way a child doesn't understand all of the aspects of household finance, but trusts that he will be cared for.
The comment about not right or wrong, but different was more in line with denominational differences - not doctrine per se. Some speak in tongues, some don't. Some feel a physical rushing in of the Spirit and have a "born again moment", others don't. Some do infant Baptism sprinkling, some adult immersion Baptism. Some have structured liturgical services, others are less formal. Not right, not wrong... just different.