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I am getting so mad at people right now. We're being told over and over again that we should not have children, but not for the typical reason that the world is overpopulated.
I've been on birth control pills when I was a teenager, to try to get my hormones straightened out. While on them I had horrible side effects, including blurred vision. My hormones were made worse when I got off of them.
Since my marriage I had been looking into the idea of going back on birth control, but I believe I received a direct call from God not to use any form of birth control, even though I am in the circumstances I am in.
Let me back track just a bit. My family was emotionally and verbally abusive towards me, treating me like a child. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere on my own, or get a job. They wanted me to be dependent on them forever.
My husband is disabled to the point where he cannot work. Both he and I have Asperger's syndrome, but he additionally has severe Tourette's Syndrome, and panic attacks. I will end up being the breadwinner. Right now, neither of us have a place we can call home, but God has set up a place for us when he receives his SSI payments, which we firmly believe that God will provide to support us.
Back in August he and I decided that we needed to get away from my family and marry, trusting that God would provide for us. Although we were unable to get out until a month ago, in the month since, God has, indeed, provided for us. We haven't been hungry at all, and only had to spend one night outside, and only one night in a shelter.
So I was lying awake in bed one night (I'm staying with some friends of my husband's who have girls in their home) and contemplating birth control, and I heard a nearly audible voice saying, "why do you want to do that? I thought you said you trusted me! Do you not trust me to provide for any child I may give you?"
And I responded, "But Lord, you know that my husband has a hard time dealing with children, and I have had no desire before my marriage for any either."
Then I heard, "I will give you the desire, and the strength, to deal with any child I should give you."
This is why I am not using birth control, but still I'm getting chided for it. Especially since we both have an Autism spectrum disorder, and people seem to think of Autism as the worst thing that could happen to a parent, and any child of ours would genetically be more predisposed to the disorder. We have a desire to adopt as well, but for now we're trusting that God will provide for any child he should send our way.
But some people think we're too childlike in our firm belief in this. I guess I'm here more for support than anything else.
I am getting so mad at people right now. We're being told over and over again that we should not have children, but not for the typical reason that the world is overpopulated.
I've been on birth control pills when I was a teenager, to try to get my hormones straightened out. While on them I had horrible side effects, including blurred vision. My hormones were made worse when I got off of them.
Since my marriage I had been looking into the idea of going back on birth control, but I believe I received a direct call from God not to use any form of birth control, even though I am in the circumstances I am in.
Let me back track just a bit. My family was emotionally and verbally abusive towards me, treating me like a child. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere on my own, or get a job. They wanted me to be dependent on them forever.
My husband is disabled to the point where he cannot work. Both he and I have Asperger's syndrome, but he additionally has severe Tourette's Syndrome, and panic attacks. I will end up being the breadwinner. Right now, neither of us have a place we can call home, but God has set up a place for us when he receives his SSI payments, which we firmly believe that God will provide to support us.
Back in August he and I decided that we needed to get away from my family and marry, trusting that God would provide for us. Although we were unable to get out until a month ago, in the month since, God has, indeed, provided for us. We haven't been hungry at all, and only had to spend one night outside, and only one night in a shelter.
So I was lying awake in bed one night (I'm staying with some friends of my husband's who have girls in their home) and contemplating birth control, and I heard a nearly audible voice saying, "why do you want to do that? I thought you said you trusted me! Do you not trust me to provide for any child I may give you?"
And I responded, "But Lord, you know that my husband has a hard time dealing with children, and I have had no desire before my marriage for any either."
Then I heard, "I will give you the desire, and the strength, to deal with any child I should give you."
This is why I am not using birth control, but still I'm getting chided for it. Especially since we both have an Autism spectrum disorder, and people seem to think of Autism as the worst thing that could happen to a parent, and any child of ours would genetically be more predisposed to the disorder. We have a desire to adopt as well, but for now we're trusting that God will provide for any child he should send our way.
But some people think we're too childlike in our firm belief in this. I guess I'm here more for support than anything else.