C-section after natural birth attempt. Boo Every time I talk or even think of DS's birth I get very sad and mad. Very down. Blah.
I think people put too much of an emphasis on the birthing process.
This this this..a thousand times THIS! My daughter is here, I am here..that's all that matters to me. 17 hours of labor and a cesarian isn't what I wanted..but I did want my daughter here, safe and healthy..and she is.
First was emergancy section after 15hrs of natural labour,just fas and air and nothing happening - it was awful and took me nearly 3 months to recover from - plus I still get pain in my scar now 2 1/2 years later if I do too much
Birth, in my opinion and experience, is 90-95% mental. The rest is all about psitioning- of both mom and baby.
Physioligically- fear causes the brain to produce adrenaline--and during first stage adrenaline blocks the endorphins from working effectively.
If you can 'worse case scenario' it in your mind--couple with that a positive outcome. Visualize the pain--but also visualise you giving birth despite the pain--visualize everything- the labor, the pushing, the birth, the birth of the placenta, nursing baby in your arms, coming home with baby. Play it over in your mind. Read about the emotional signposts in labor-- imagine feeling those feelings--allow yourself to be scared, or to be ready to quit--and then visualise how you want to deal with that.
On a practical note-- laying on your back in bed is the absolute most painful way to labor. Stay active and upright and you will have less pain.
Can I ask you if you have cramps when you menstruate? Or if you can deal with stomach pains from gas? The pain of labor is much more like those things than it is a needle stick.
Refuse an IV, refuse an episiotomy (except for emergency), breath through crowning to avoid stitches.
Well, I don't know now that you mention it, but you do lose weight faster if you breastfeed.
Same... I was induced at 198 lbs. I left hospital about 180ish lbs. 2 weeks post partum I was 170ish. I stayed 170 lbs until 6.5 months post partum. I quit pumping, and then bam, ten lbs came off. Breastfeeding does NOT make you lose weight in all cases. And I will never again tell someone this, as I got very depressed because I wasn't losing anything.. how could I when I just sat pumping alllllll day long?Not necessarily...I breast fed for 10 months, stopped for 5 months (break inbetween babies-15 mnths apart) and breast fed for another 13 months...I ended up gaining...pre preg weight was 140...went up to over 200lbs by the end of the second breast feeding...I was huge for years actually until kids were past the breast feeding stage!! ugghh...
Completely agree with you. I was pretty confident with my first birth and got to the pushing stage with gas but my daughter got stuck and I had a c-section. With my second child I had a VBAC, but it was awful. I let fear rule me, I was so scared the c-scar would rupture, the midwife gave me pethidine ( which made me sleepy) and then stood over me demanding I give birth before her shift finished.Birth, in my opinion and experience, is 90-95% mental. The rest is all about psitioning- of both mom and baby.
Physioligically- fear causes the brain to produce adrenaline--and during first stage adrenaline blocks the endorphins from working effectively.
If you can 'worse case scenario' it in your mind--couple with that a positive outcome. Visualize the pain--but also visualise you giving birth despite the pain--visualize everything- the labor, the pushing, the birth, the birth of the placenta, nursing baby in your arms, coming home with baby. Play it over in your mind. Read about the emotional signposts in labor-- imagine feeling those feelings--allow yourself to be scared, or to be ready to quit--and then visualise how you want to deal with that.
On a practical note-- laying on your back in bed is the absolute most painful way to labor. Stay active and upright and you will have less pain.
Can I ask you if you have cramps when you menstruate? Or if you can deal with stomach pains from gas? The pain of labor is much more like those things than it is a needle stick.
Refuse an IV, refuse an episiotomy (except for emergency), breath through crowning to avoid stitches.