I just received a copy of her text messages from the last month, and there is definitely a particular number she is texting every night up into the wee hours of the morning. I am not going to jump to conclusions, but I have tried to call that #, but only gotten a computer generated response.
She has not slept in the same bed w/ me since February, and we have not had sex since before Thanksgiving.
Jesus Freak, I read this post the day you placed it, but I didn't answer then....I've been trying to think of anything else to say but it doesn't come.
I am sorry, but there is really no other logical explanation for a woman texting well into the night. You need to start protecting yourself from this point forward. Should you leave it in Gods hands? Sure...but let me say
You've had all these things revealed to you somehow. You've come on this forum with this info. You've heard what others have posted.....
........Maybe God is telling you what you need to hear. Maybe God is working to reveal things to you.
If I were you, I would continue to pray and work with your wife to reconcile, but at the same time, I would be making sure that I had copies of all important papers, and some money stashed in case I needed to go with my children some place for a few weeks. I would make sure I had pictures of the scratches and that the incident was logged with local PD. I also would get a recording device and start recording almost all conversations from this point forward. Keep a log of what all is going on, dates, times, events.....
Your Abuser is escalating from purely mental and has now moved to physical.
I know it is hard to believe, but women are able to be abusers. Studies show that women more than men are the likely perpetrators of abuse and the instigators. Women bear the brunt of the physical aftermath as the man is bigger and stronger.....but the woman is the instigator in the majority of reported incidents. (yes, I know, shocking huh? 38 independent studies encompassing over 119,000 cases, compiled over 10 years revealed that the majority of abuse occurs at the hand of the woman)
The Police will not help you unless you are completely above reproach. That is why the digital recorder is needed. She will lie to the police when they show up, you can bet,......no, you can "BANK" on it. Unless you have some way to prove to the police what really happened, then you will go do jail. Whatever you do, do not even lift your hands to repel her blows, just absorb them. (She can't hit you hard anyway) Most likely, she will strike you some how and then run to the phone and dial 911....that way, in her mind, you can be removed from the house. If you have evidence to show the police at that very moment.....this will happen to you.
Do I sound extreme Ladies?? Anyone want to tell me how "mean" I am being to JFs wife?
Amazing how quiet this thread has become after JF posted that she was texting some strange number all hours of the night......you Ladies aren't stupid...you know what that means.
