bad part is the pastor is my girlfriend's sister...haha.
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Whoa! There is a bigger issue, women can not be pastors.
Titus 1
New King James Version (NKJV)
6 if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination.
1. A Pastor must be devoted to his wife; one-woman man (Titus 1:6; 1 Tim 3:2).
The pastors marriage illustrates Christs love for His churchHis bride (Eph. 5:22 ff.). A Pastor must love his wife exclusively with his mind, will and emotions and not just his body.
This is the big one, a pastor illustrates Christ, and Jesus is a male, not a female.
Ephesians 5
MarriageChrist and the Church
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body,[d] of His flesh and of His bones. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.[e] 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
God is all about illustration, marriage is an illustration, the church is an illustration, an illustration of the relationship of Christ and his people, this is why it is so critical for pastors to be male, and marriages to be between one man and one woman. The man illustrates Jesus, the woman illustrates the church.
1 Timothy 2
11 Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. 12 And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. 15 Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.
1 Corinthians 14:34-35
New King James Version (NKJV)
34 Let your[a] women keep silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak; but they are to be submissive, as the law also says. 35 And if they want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is shameful for women to speak in church.
Illustrating the church relationship with Jesus Christ, we each member, go to Jesus directly in prayer, as a woman comes directly to her husband.