I think they were just joking. Don't get upset. I haven't seen anyone on this thread post in anger. Some people offered a different viewpoint, it's ok.
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I think they were just joking. Don't get upset. I haven't seen anyone on this thread post in anger. Some people offered a different viewpoint, it's ok.
Maybe I am the one missing something - but how is posting a list of who the couples are talking about "couple stuff". It's just a list of names.*feels like I'm missing something*
I was talking about people who are in couples. 'Courting Couples' is the forum for people who are in exclusive dating relationships. They could go there for their 'coupley' stuff, and come here to talk about singles related topics with their friends who are still single.
I don't understand what is so wrong about a list of people that have met through this forum. No one ever suggested through this entire thread that the "lonely singles" that are offended by this thread should leave or stay away - the suggestion was offered that you should simply ignore the thread if it bothers you. Personally, I think that is the mature response - I ignore threads quite frequently that offend me or seem to serve no purpose for why I'm here, but I don't post in them about how it's existence ruffles my feathers.
What is the intent of a singles forum - to be here and wallow in our singleness or to offer us an opportunity to mingle with other singles and possibly meet new friends? - and for those that develop a love interest then BONUS to them!
I don't think it's right to criticize maycontainnuts for starting a thread that could easily be ignored if you don't like it.
JMHO
Maybe I am the one missing something - but how is posting a list of who the couples are talking about "couple stuff". It's just a list of names.
Maybe we should start a list of singles, too.
*feels like I'm missing something*
I was talking about people who are in couples. 'Courting Couples' is the forum for people who are in exclusive dating relationships. They could go there for their 'coupley' stuff, and come here to talk about singles related topics with their friends who are still single.
Think about it...Is it wrong for people who are trying to stop smoking to desire their own forum where people don't make posts about, say, their favorite brand of cigarettes? Why is it different for Christians who are struggling to remain pure until the right person comes their way ?
Yes, the person who has the problem is the person who's trying to quit, or the single who's struggling, not the people who are just minding their own business. But face it, even by just reading the title, the temptation is still thrown out there.
I'm sorry but this statement just does not sit well with me. I think that the temptation is the problem of the person that is tempted. If they don't have the strength to not click on a title that could possibly offend, it shouldn't become the OP's problem. Maybe, if this topic upsets people, they should be taking it to prayer and looking for the answer as to WHY it bothers them.
My point is - if you are unhappy, be proactive about seeking change for the better rather than being down on the ones that have benefited from meeting someone in the existing group.
I meant in your church, specifically regarding the proactiveness.Umm...I agree. That's the point I was trying to make. The OPs are just minding their own business, and they have every right to post what they do. Which is why I thought a separate subforum was a good idea. The couples could remain where they were, and the people who desired to get away from that for a bit could do so.
That's what I'm trying to do here.
I wouldn't worry about offending people. I think most people know you don't mean anything personal. And the fact is you do have a point. This is a place where singles are meant to support each other (particularly in the down times), and it does seem to go against the purpose of this forum (not necessarily this thread) when couples on here do go a bit overboard and just about brag of their current status.Well maybe "rubbing it in" wasn't the best phrase to use. What I was getting at was that while it must be great to meet people from this site (and forum), not all of us are so fortunate and still find a cushy home amongst other lonely singles on the Singles forum. Now of course I'm not saying "hey, stay the heck out!" to the coupled up members. (That'd be stupid) Quite frankly, it's the lovey doveyness that I think is a tad out of place. It's not the PERSON, it's the SUBJECT.
I admit I'm probably alone in that line of thinking, though, and for that I apologize for being a slight spoilsport. I'm aware that it really can be a hope for many a single person out here to find a mate or a worthy candidate on this site, so I'm of course not speaking on behalf of everyone else. Maybe I can be in that predicament too with my own special guy so that I can be on the other end of the spectrum (for ONCE) and look at it from another angle and be all giddy and girly and grateful to God that He hasn't forgotten about me, but pfft, who knows how much longer that will be. Probably a long time since men are not my favorite creatures right now.
Sorry for being a sour note here, though. Feel free to carry on with couplehood chatter. I think I got my basic gist of thoughts off my chest anyway.
Carry on, carry on.
Aww. I never saw that picture.
beautiful picture!
There is also Mikeyp(mike) and I_Survived (lisa)