Met on CF

[stormgade4]

I met a fellow CFer once. Mina is a very sweet girl. I enjoyed meeting her. They say that opposites attract, well, maybe extreme opposites do not.

And to those who have never seen her picture, she is quite beautiful.

 

[futuredoc]

Well maybe "rubbing it in" wasn't the best phrase to use. What I was getting at was that while it must be great to meet people from this site (and forum), not all of us are so fortunate and still find a cushy home amongst other lonely singles on the Singles forum. Now of course I'm not saying "hey, stay the heck out!" to the coupled up members. (That'd be stupid) Quite frankly, it's the lovey doveyness that I think is a tad out of place. It's not the PERSON, it's the SUBJECT.

I admit I'm probably alone in that line of thinking, though, and for that I apologize for being a slight spoilsport. I'm aware that it really can be a hope for many a single person out here to find a mate or a worthy candidate on this site, so I'm of course not speaking on behalf of everyone else. Maybe I can be in that predicament too with my own special guy so that I can be on the other end of the spectrum (for ONCE) and look at it from another angle and be all giddy and girly and grateful to God that He hasn't forgotten about me, but pfft, who knows how much longer that will be. Probably a long time since men are not my favorite creatures right now.

Sorry for being a sour note here, though. Feel free to carry on with couplehood chatter. I think I got my basic gist of thoughts off my chest anyway.

Carry on, carry on.

No you're not alone....I feel the same way. But it feels like the majority of the singles forum is coupled up now so what are you going to do. I also think that most of the more popular active posters are coupled now. Plus most of the singles who feel upset by it probably stay away so the general opinion seems to be that everyones happy and encouraged when really that might not be the case.

I also take offense to the idea that a single person who's upset should just stay away. This is the SINGLE's forum it should be a safe place for them. If they went in the couples forum and posted that seeing couples is upseting to them then I'd tell them to stay away. Also that makes it seem like single people's opinions are worth less than that of the now coupled people.

 

[mina]

No you're not alone....I feel the same way. But it feels like the majority of the singles forum is coupled up now so what are you going to do. I also think that most of the more popular active posters are coupled now. Plus most of the singles who feel upset by it probably stay away so the general opinion seems to be that everyones happy and encouraged when really that might not be the case.

I also take offense to the idea that a single person who's upset should just stay away. This is the SINGLE's forum it should be a safe place for them. If they went in the couples forum and posted that seeing couples is upseting to them then I'd tell them to stay away. Also that makes it seem like single people's opinions are worth less than that of the now coupled people.

i agree with both of you. There has to be a balance. All people who are single should be welcome on the "singles" forum. heck, i don't care if married people even post here as long as they are respectful. Vents, praises should all be accepted here. There should not be just one point of view and everyone else should jsut leave if they don't share that veiwpoint. Respect is key.

Stormgade Thank you.

 

[puffca]

Time to start a "singles in singles forum" forum.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Look, I think it is cool that there's a lot of people from CF (many of whom were active on the singles forum) who've gotten together and even gotten engaged and married. I find it encouraging. I don't see how my post sends the message that singles aren't welcome in the singles forum

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

No, certainly not. There are loads of them about.

I guess that means they are being civil to each other, then?

 

[lunalinda]

I'll just share my own experiences here. Here's how you get into a relationship...

Stick around the singles board, and constantly argue, fight, and debate with people. Somehow, that causes the love of one's life to drop into your lap.




....at least, that's how it worked for me

Haha thanks, that's an interesting perspective. But the line between "I'm in love with that guy" and "I can't stand that guy!" seems very thin to me. Though the one plus of debates and arguments is that you really do get to know the heart of a person. It's like a shortcut. It's just a matter of surviving the bicker to get there.

No you're not alone....I feel the same way. But it feels like the majority of the singles forum is coupled up now so what are you going to do. I also think that most of the more popular active posters are coupled now. Plus most of the singles who feel upset by it probably stay away so the general opinion seems to be that everyones happy and encouraged when really that might not be the case.

Yah, that seems to have been what happened in my lengthy absences. I suppose it's best for me to still keep my distance from this site, or at least this particular forum, or just spend more of the time at the other boards where you would never know who's together or not.

I also take offense to the idea that a single person who's upset should just stay away. This is the SINGLE's forum it should be a safe place for them. If they went in the couples forum and posted that seeing couples is upseting to them then I'd tell them to stay away. Also that makes it seem like single people's opinions are worth less than that of the now coupled people.

I agree. I usually steer VERY clear of couple forums because it gets me too bitter and I surely dont' want to rain on any of THEIR parade. But I shouldn't have to do that here. Though like I mentioned to another poster here, it's understandable that people want to share their happiness with others (and I'm sure I'd want the same), but I guess it's how extreme do you get? Where does one draw the line? Gah, I suppose this situation is only as bad I one allows it to be. Still, it's tough. But alas, there's always the Transformers boards way on a whole 'nother site to keep me busy and distracted hehe.

 

[Miles]

Time to start a "singles in singles forum" forum.

I've been thinking the same thing. We need a subforum for single singles.

 

[BeautifulWorshipper]

What I would like to see, more than anything, are those who met here, and are now split up.

That kind of list...should...be interesting.

Lol I would be included in that...

 

[alfrodull]

Time to start a "singles in singles forum" forum.

I realize you were probably joking about this, but I'd actually support it.

It's like the singles group in my church...All of them are seriously dating someone else in the group, thereby defeating the purpose and making any actual singles looking to join feel uncomfortable.

I agree it would be wrong to kick the non-singles out entirely, or even to ask them to stop making threads like this. I know it's done out of good motivations, and I'm sure it is encouraging to some people. But darn it, it would be nice to have some kind of "safe haven" where I didn't feel excluded.

 

[TriptychR]

Time to start a "singles in singles forum" forum.

We can call it the "Hunting List"

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Well by all means go and request the subforum since there are so many people that want it.

 

[mina]

I think they were just joking. Don't get upset. I haven't seen anyone on this thread post in anger. Some people offered a different viewpoint, it's ok.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Alright.

 

[Keri]

I've suggested a subforum before. On numerous occasions. I think that maybe we should do a poll... ask everyone on here if we should have a subforum for singles who are single... and then I can message the poll link to the person who helps Erwin design the site. maybe they'll fulfill our request then.

 

[Miles]

Not to ruffle anybody's feathers... but what's wrong with the 'Courting Couples' section?

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

It doesn't seem very active and I'm not in a relationship.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I've suggested a subforum before. On numerous occasions. I think that maybe we should do a poll... ask everyone on here if we should have a subforum for singles who are single... and then I can message the poll link to the person who helps Erwin design the site. maybe they'll fulfill our request then.

Sounds like a good idea to me Then people could have their "safe place" and people who are somewhere inconveniently between single and courting could have a place to chat, too.

 

[ido]

I don't understand what is so wrong about a list of people that have met through this forum. No one ever suggested through this entire thread that the "lonely singles" that are offended by this thread should leave or stay away - the suggestion was offered that you should simply ignore the thread if it bothers you. Personally, I think that is the mature response - I ignore threads quite frequently that offend me or seem to serve no purpose for why I'm here, but I don't post in them about how it's existence ruffles my feathers.

What is the intent of a singles forum - to be here and wallow in our singleness or to offer us an opportunity to mingle with other singles and possibly meet new friends? - and for those that develop a love interest then BONUS to them!

I don't think it's right to criticize maycontainnuts for starting a thread that could easily be ignored if you don't like it.

JMHO

 

[Miles]

*feels like I'm missing something*

I was talking about people who are in couples. 'Courting Couples' is the forum for people who are in exclusive dating relationships. They could go there for their 'coupley' stuff, and come here to talk about singles related topics with their friends who are still single.