MERCY@GRACE
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mlukas said:my two cents...based on some past expereince..
I disagree with a lot of you, sex, frequency of sex in a marriage is a HUGE thing I beleive! Don't get me wrong, loving your spouse, being kind, etc, etc, is paramount but you can't discount the importance of frequency of sex in a marriage and two people being compatable in that arena. I think that part of life shows up in how affectionate your significnt other is in dating.
I have been divorced about 3 years and I can tell you from expereince that sex wasn't the main issue that broke us up (there were many...) but it was a big one. Ladies...seriously, if you have a man that really loves you, thinks you are beautiful and desires you in a sexual way, and you spurn a fair amount of his advances, how do you think that makes him feel?
Like a worthless, undesirable piece of trash...trust me, I know from experience. We men just don't want sex for the sake of sex, speaking from my own expereince, it's intimacy to us. A way to express it and a way to give it. I think the whole notion that "only love counts" and frequency of sex doesn't is very naive and dangerous. It's like Dr. Dobson says...when the sex is good, it's 10% or the marriage, when it's bad it's 90%. I just think the christian community at large doesn't want to address the issue of "sexual compatability" because it us uncomfortable and seems inappropriate to talk about.
I disagree with this notion..it NEEDS to be talked about otherwise one or both people end up feeling frustrated and feeling worthless...
Of course that's just my opinion...I could be wrong...
I Think your post offered some balance to this thread, and I must say hubby shares the same views!
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