Key word there is meant. It wasn't MEANT to be that but honestly, do guys care about intentions? Hahaha I sure don't. If it's out in the open, its fair game. Thats how the male mind operates. If it's out there, we will look. We kinda disregard the intentions because we see boobies and I am being extremely blunt yet simple. Sorry guys for letting out our secret.
Although cleavage may be a line, I'm not talking about the line here. EVEN if she was only wearing a bra, that still shows us guys something. We ARE taking responsibility for our actions. We try to look away. If the guy has read "Every Young Men's Battle" series, it says to do the bouncing eyes technique. We know what to do but here is the thing. We have other plaecs we need to do that stuff. I mean we got the whole world we need to worry about. Seeing another sister in Christ doing that stuff just makes it worse for us. It does sound selfish in the girl point of view but that is our weakness. Do you understand what I'm saying? YES it is our responsibility to not look but it is also YOUR responsibility to not create MORE stumbling blocks. And if we truly embrace that we are family, why create more stumbling blocks than necessary?
In the same case, us guys should watch out what we say to you girls. We know not to call you things because thats where girls have their weakness...in what they hear (from what I hear). It's not about who is to blame because ultimately it is satan. But as a family, us guys watch out for you girls and vice versa. Thats how a family operates.
I want to know how it isn't her fault. Did she pick the outfit? Did she buy the outfit? I mean it is her choice to show cleavage or any skin for that matter. When it comes down to it, it isn't media who decides. It isn't family who decides. it isn't the dog who decides. When it comes down to it, it is YOU who decides. Saying it isn't your fault for showing cleavage is a ridiculous statement.
I think when it comes down to it, it's the fact of is it glorifying God as I said before. Trust me, I got my own things that really make me think if its for His glory or ours. Here is what I think of when I see two people in different outfits:
Nicely dressed but showing skin: "Oh..wow. She looks nice but dang...look at this and that"
Nicely dressed without showing skin: "Wow..she looks nice!"
See how that is? I should charge you for getting inside my brain because thats truly how guys operate (generally....the guy/girl comparisons are generally speaking). I mean yes I could think that even she isn't showing skin look at this and that but there is a less chance for that. Why take that chance? Why roll a dice when the outcome can only be bad?