Hi, I'm going to try to make this short.
Basically I need another Christian to talk to about this issue.
Nobody else seems to understand me.
I'm a 19 year old male, and I am a virgin. Abstinence is a huge deal to me and always has been. I've always been hoping that my future wife would be a virgin as well. I've recently met a girl at church and I really, really like her. She's so sweet and loves God very much. But she's 22 and I'm not sure if she's a virgin. We've been talking a lot and seeing each other outside of church but it's still a mystery to me. She wears a purity ring but didn't say if she was still a virgin she just said it's her promise to God to practice abstinence. I don't know a polite way to ask, but it's really bugging me. I don't want to fall for her and find out she's not a virgin because it would make it really difficult for me to have a serious relationship with her.
I've tried to talk to friends about this but nobody gets why it is so important to me, one friend called me a "sexist pig" for feeling this way. Is it wrong? What can I do? What should I do? I can't just change the way I feel about purity and everything. I don't want to be with someone who didn't wait for me, but at the same time I've already developed feelings for her and I can't make myself stop seeing her if she wasn't.
Hello!Mrs. Dr. Hortense They here. I totally understand what you're saying. Please allow me to introduce a thought about this to you. Before becoming a Christian many of God's children make mistakes, including violating the practice of abstinence. Sometimes in their past they go through being violated against their will. It's simply the ways of the world. Many are ignorant to things that cause them to fall while others have no choice having been abused as children. When you do not have the standards and instructions of God's Holy Word you don't have the pure ways of God available to know to follow and sometimes others do not as well. Nonetheless when you accept Christ, all things become new, you are forgiven of your past and God throws your sins as far away as the East is from the West. We are all growing In Christ, from Glory to Glory and can not hold anyone's past against them for they are now "New Creatures In Christ", ALL things become new and even in this case virginity can be spiritually restored by God. However, if God the Sovereign King has put this in your heart to remain true to waiting for someone who has never fallen or been violated, you should be obedient to His leading. Just pray and be sure God Himself does not want you to possibly take another view of this. Come visit us at
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Many Rich Blessings In Christ Dear Brother!