Is it wrong for guys to be too nice?

[Jro]

Why is the question just directed at guys? Is there something different about women, where this isn't a problem for them?

 

[this_is_new]

Why is the question just directed at guys? Is there something different about women, where this isn't a problem for them?

lol let me tell you it can be a big problem. I was the "nice" girl at a all girls school during high school. I can't compare how it is for boys... but for me I realized that being considered too "nice" is a weakness that others will exploit.

Oh and the question is exactly what I'd expect for one of Gabe's threads.

 

[Mling]

Why is the question just directed at guys? Is there something different about women, where this isn't a problem for them?

Thank you--it's nice to see that question coming from a guy. The main difference I see is that it's more acceptable--sometimes even expected-- for women to behave this way.

 

[znr]

Sure, nice guys finish last. As a Christian, I believe that getting ahead is what matters.

Really? what bible are you reading?

 

[BloodyRachel]

Really? what bible are you reading?

You're liberal, aren't you? That means you have more than one Bible to choose from. I only have the one God gave us.

 

[CaliforniaSun]

You're liberal, aren't you? That means you have more than one Bible to choose from. I only have the one God gave us.

 

[wanderingone]

You're liberal, aren't you? That means you have more than one Bible to choose from. I only have the one God gave us.

Which one is that?

 

[wanderingone]

I've got this friend whose employees and wife walk all over him. He is one of those nice guys who tries to please everyone but himself. I think this is wrong. He should be more honest with himself and others about how he really feels. Or, is he being a good person by doing this?

I didn't see anyone ask for clarification.

What do you mean by letting people "walk all over him"

How do you know he is only pleasing others and not himself and isn't being honest about how he feels?

I think there are people who may appear to be "too nice" when what they are is strong enough to know when to yield and when not to. My parents were often viewed as being "too nice" but they were dedicated Christians who believed in service. They gave of their time, their earnings, their skills, and sometimes were viewed as allowing themselves to be "used" but they were also happy and content with their works. They didn't feel used and they didn't allow their service and gifts to others to put their home and family at risk or cause them to go against their own beliefs. (I shouldn't use the past tense, my dad has passed, my mom has not and she continues to be a woman who believes in being a servant)

 

[BloodyRachel]

Which one is that?

The printed Bible.

 

[BleedingHeart]

Sure, nice guys finish last. As a Christian, I believe that getting ahead is what matters.

Nice guys don't finish last...
...they don't finish at all.

 

[BloodyRachel]

Nice guys don't finish last...
...they don't finish at all.

Exactly.

 

[Cabal]

You're liberal, aren't you? That means you have more than one Bible to choose from. I only have the one God gave us.

Last time I checked, liberals read printed Bibles, they just have a different interpretation of it than you. No need to strawman.

 

[BloodyRachel]

Last time I checked, liberals read printed Bibles, they just have a different interpretation of it than you. No need to strawman.

You're right, but she made it sound different.

 

[wanderingone]

The printed Bible.

As opposed to what? An Audio bible? A Braille bible? (I can head slap too...)

What version?
What language?
What publisher?
What Edition?

 

[wanderingone]

Nice guys don't finish last...
...they don't finish at all.

 

[BloodyRachel]

As opposed to what? An Audio bible? A Braille bible? (I can head slap too...)

What version?
What language?
What publisher?
What Edition?

It really doesn't matter. The Bible is the Bible. Yes, I see you can head slap. Can you also take an eye for an eye?

 

[wanderingone]

Last time I checked, liberals read printed Bibles, they just have a different interpretation of it than you. No need to strawman.

I don't know what she means by only one choice; regardless of which doctrine one adheres to within Christianity there are multiple versions of the Bible.

 

[wanderingone]

It really doesn't matter. The Bible is the Bible. Yes, I see you can head slap. Can you also take an eye for an eye?

No actually it's not. Depending on what version you may be adhering to books of the bible that other Christians do not. Shall we even get into the issue of what languages you read? I'm going to bet you don't read the language of the original scribes. So in your opinion all bibles are the same regardless of what books are included, how the text is translated? what footnotes are included?

 

[BleedingHeart]

It's a line from an old Command and Conquer Red Alert 1 advertisement.

 

[BleedingHeart]

It really doesn't matter. The Bible is the Bible. Yes, I see you can head slap. Can you also take an eye for an eye?

The guy has a point. What exactly WERE you talking about when you compared the Bible(s) liberals read with the one given to you by God?

I'm just straight up confused.