Judging by some of the posts in [thread=2834266]this thread[/thread], I get the impression that people believe that if I have not experienced x number of y things by z age then I am to be avoided. 30 seems to always be z (what is so significant about one's 30th birthday?).
Is that true? Because I didn't experience a minimum amount of certain things before my 30th birthday women should avoid me?
If I experienced all of it for the first time in my 29th year would I then be okay? Is there a grace period or something? If I hurry up and experience all of it before my next birthday (my 35th), will my delinquency be forgiven? Talk about pressure! I've got eight months now to experience a bunch of things that normal people experience and prove that I would be okay to date and/or marry!
Is there really a set schedule for physical, emotional, social and spiritual development which any deviation from is a red flag?
It has been my experience that some women find a lack of experience interesting and attractive. Does that mean that something is wrong with those women?
And is this a double standard? It is okay for a woman not to have had certain experiences by her 30th birthday, but it is not okay for a man?
I find the whole idea discouraging and depressing. I have made a lot of sacrifices so that if I am ever in a relationship I can bring a lot of positives to the relationship and bring minimal baggage. But now it is again being asserted that not having a minimum amount of certain experiences by a certain age is baggage itself.
And here is what I don't understand. If my inexperience is a red flag and women should think "Avoid", then why have all of the women whom I have been good friends with--women who know about my age and what I have not experienced--gone out of their way to tell me that they admire me and that I will make a terrific husband for some lucky woman?
Is that true? Because I didn't experience a minimum amount of certain things before my 30th birthday women should avoid me?
If I experienced all of it for the first time in my 29th year would I then be okay? Is there a grace period or something? If I hurry up and experience all of it before my next birthday (my 35th), will my delinquency be forgiven? Talk about pressure! I've got eight months now to experience a bunch of things that normal people experience and prove that I would be okay to date and/or marry!
Is there really a set schedule for physical, emotional, social and spiritual development which any deviation from is a red flag?
It has been my experience that some women find a lack of experience interesting and attractive. Does that mean that something is wrong with those women?
And is this a double standard? It is okay for a woman not to have had certain experiences by her 30th birthday, but it is not okay for a man?
I find the whole idea discouraging and depressing. I have made a lot of sacrifices so that if I am ever in a relationship I can bring a lot of positives to the relationship and bring minimal baggage. But now it is again being asserted that not having a minimum amount of certain experiences by a certain age is baggage itself.
And here is what I don't understand. If my inexperience is a red flag and women should think "Avoid", then why have all of the women whom I have been good friends with--women who know about my age and what I have not experienced--gone out of their way to tell me that they admire me and that I will make a terrific husband for some lucky woman?