Recently I broke up with my girlfriend because she wanted me to become polyamory.
According to them:
"If my partner really loved me, there would not be any desire for an intimate or sexual relationship with anyone else.
This is based on the scarcity model of love, in which a partner's emotional or love interest in somebody else means that I will be loved less. It is as absurd as the idea that to have a second child is an indication that you don't love your first child enough. It also presumes that sex and love are the same thing and meet the same needs."
Now I know there's something terribly wrong with the definition of love in these people mind.
Apparently,loving someone and telling them they'r the only ones is selfish because it is possessive by nature.Being faithfull and expecting faithfullness is selfish act.I dont understand anymore.These people always come up with arguments to justify theyr needs.According to them ,one person can't fullfill all my needs.
I see these people as narcissistic and childish and self destructive.I always thought that when I trully love someone I commit to them ,not out of obligation,but because I want to.Why would I be interested in running around like selfish dog.This is not even manly.
And all they're silly arguments,to me they sound like some people fishing for reasons that support theyr lifestyle.Recently I had to hear how homosexuality and sado masochisim is natural and healthy.And all this coming from a person who was quoting a Chinese proverb"One must show things for what they are".
In the end what I'm tryng to say is,WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?
How can they be so serious with theyr beliefs,am I crazy or are they crazy.Or mainly we're all crazy.For the past 4 months I ve been loosing my mind.And I ve considered living alone for the rest of my life.
The fact is I'm only 19 and I'm terribly afraid that one day I too will become one of these poly people.It frightens me enormously.
So far all the advice I've been getting is that I should understand that I'm an animal and like all animals it is natural for me to be like that.
Can anyone explain to me,why love between 2 people isnt selfish.I know it isnt,i just dont get why.On the other hand I know for sure that this polywhatever is complete bull.It's incredibly obvious.Love for a child or a friend is not the same as love between man and woman.And sex is not a seperate thing.
Thank you all for listening.(reading)
According to them:
"If my partner really loved me, there would not be any desire for an intimate or sexual relationship with anyone else.
This is based on the scarcity model of love, in which a partner's emotional or love interest in somebody else means that I will be loved less. It is as absurd as the idea that to have a second child is an indication that you don't love your first child enough. It also presumes that sex and love are the same thing and meet the same needs."
Now I know there's something terribly wrong with the definition of love in these people mind.
Apparently,loving someone and telling them they'r the only ones is selfish because it is possessive by nature.Being faithfull and expecting faithfullness is selfish act.I dont understand anymore.These people always come up with arguments to justify theyr needs.According to them ,one person can't fullfill all my needs.
I see these people as narcissistic and childish and self destructive.I always thought that when I trully love someone I commit to them ,not out of obligation,but because I want to.Why would I be interested in running around like selfish dog.This is not even manly.
And all they're silly arguments,to me they sound like some people fishing for reasons that support theyr lifestyle.Recently I had to hear how homosexuality and sado masochisim is natural and healthy.And all this coming from a person who was quoting a Chinese proverb"One must show things for what they are".
In the end what I'm tryng to say is,WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?
How can they be so serious with theyr beliefs,am I crazy or are they crazy.Or mainly we're all crazy.For the past 4 months I ve been loosing my mind.And I ve considered living alone for the rest of my life.
The fact is I'm only 19 and I'm terribly afraid that one day I too will become one of these poly people.It frightens me enormously.
So far all the advice I've been getting is that I should understand that I'm an animal and like all animals it is natural for me to be like that.
Can anyone explain to me,why love between 2 people isnt selfish.I know it isnt,i just dont get why.On the other hand I know for sure that this polywhatever is complete bull.It's incredibly obvious.Love for a child or a friend is not the same as love between man and woman.And sex is not a seperate thing.
Thank you all for listening.(reading)