I'm hoping that I can get some Christian guidance about a big problem I am facing. It may sound silly, but I think it's causing me so much stress that I've become ill, and I don't know how to resolve it or where to go about it.
I am eighteen years old, female, senior in high school. This is my very first year-- and also my last-- in public school, and it is quite a transition from private Christian schools. I've been getting along fine until recently, but I am going to start at the beginning of the problem, so just hear me out, please.
I've never dated before. (This is not quite a dating question, again, just hear me out.) I try my best not to be envious when I see couples together. It seems like no matter how hard I try, I can't find the right person, or too often, someone who I believe could be a good guy to be with doesn't take a liking to me at all. So, I prayed about it. I mean, Adam asked God for a mate when he was lonely, why couldn't I? A month or so afterwards, this guy in my art class began speaking to me, and it's obvious that he likes me. I enjoy his company and am thankful for a friend in this foreign place, but I don't know if I like him back. I kind of feel like I want to, and I feel like it is no coincidence that we've developed a friendship.
One of the problems is, I don't know if "we" would work. He doesn't seem like someone I could marry, and problem two, I do have my eyes set on another guy, so I don't want to say "no, I'm not ready" and then go get with someone else.
Finally, problem three and the main reason for this thread, the other day the guy from my art class told me that he's a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. I don't know what to do or think about this. As I mentioned before, I feel like God's hand has started the situation and I may be here for a reason, but I also feel completely on my own for how to solve it. I don't want to say that God has abandoned me, but. . .
Now, I don't want to turn the kid away, if I was put here to help him. He's said he's not as bad as he used to be. This also affects the previous problems I mentioned above. Now if I do like him and we were brought together, how can I manage this in the future? I don't believe that being a "[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]" is a pure psycological disorder. I believe that hurting oneself is sinful, so why would God give someone a disorder to sin? I mean, he's fully functional, engaged in social activities and the like-- I believe such a thing as this is a choice.
I genuinely care about the guy, I don't want to hurt him or for him to get hurt; I wish the best for all people I come across. But I don't know how to go about this situation or what do to for God. Every time I think about this situation, I shake (even now), and I can't express how unprepared I am for such a challenge. I'm just a lonely, teenage girl who seems to make a mistake in everything I do. Now I'm in another deep situation and I don't know if I can cope with it.
Thank you.
I am eighteen years old, female, senior in high school. This is my very first year-- and also my last-- in public school, and it is quite a transition from private Christian schools. I've been getting along fine until recently, but I am going to start at the beginning of the problem, so just hear me out, please.
I've never dated before. (This is not quite a dating question, again, just hear me out.) I try my best not to be envious when I see couples together. It seems like no matter how hard I try, I can't find the right person, or too often, someone who I believe could be a good guy to be with doesn't take a liking to me at all. So, I prayed about it. I mean, Adam asked God for a mate when he was lonely, why couldn't I? A month or so afterwards, this guy in my art class began speaking to me, and it's obvious that he likes me. I enjoy his company and am thankful for a friend in this foreign place, but I don't know if I like him back. I kind of feel like I want to, and I feel like it is no coincidence that we've developed a friendship.
One of the problems is, I don't know if "we" would work. He doesn't seem like someone I could marry, and problem two, I do have my eyes set on another guy, so I don't want to say "no, I'm not ready" and then go get with someone else.
Finally, problem three and the main reason for this thread, the other day the guy from my art class told me that he's a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. I don't know what to do or think about this. As I mentioned before, I feel like God's hand has started the situation and I may be here for a reason, but I also feel completely on my own for how to solve it. I don't want to say that God has abandoned me, but. . .
Now, I don't want to turn the kid away, if I was put here to help him. He's said he's not as bad as he used to be. This also affects the previous problems I mentioned above. Now if I do like him and we were brought together, how can I manage this in the future? I don't believe that being a "[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]" is a pure psycological disorder. I believe that hurting oneself is sinful, so why would God give someone a disorder to sin? I mean, he's fully functional, engaged in social activities and the like-- I believe such a thing as this is a choice.
I genuinely care about the guy, I don't want to hurt him or for him to get hurt; I wish the best for all people I come across. But I don't know how to go about this situation or what do to for God. Every time I think about this situation, I shake (even now), and I can't express how unprepared I am for such a challenge. I'm just a lonely, teenage girl who seems to make a mistake in everything I do. Now I'm in another deep situation and I don't know if I can cope with it.
Thank you.