A few weeks ago I had a dream about one of my exes ("Z").
We (Me and "Z") had dated for 3 months (last summer) and only because after our 2nd date, when I wanted to break things off, he was begging me to give him another chance. At the time, a married man ("H") (who never told me he had a wife & 3 kids) had asked for my number and had been calling me, etc. which went on until his wife called me and I told her everything & never spoke to "H" ever again. I was really upset about that situation because it was never my intention to get involved as a third person in anyone's relationship, and my ex was there ("Z") and begging me to give him another chance and I was really upset... sooo I gave him ("Z") a 2nd chance. The relationship wasn't that great and he ("Z") ended up moving upstate about halfway into it. I would have kept up the efforts but I didn't like where things were going. Also, he's ("Z") an atheist & God was moving me closer towards Him in my faith & I could no longer justify being unequally yoked. I ended things, offering to remain friends, but he ("Z") said he couldn't handle seeing me with someone else, so he cut off all contact.
In the dream, he ("Z") said the same thing and excused himself (out of my dream).
Then in real life, he ("Z") emailed me asking me to call him, so I did (this was last week) and he said that he'd really missed me, etc. and was I seeing anyone else? I said I was (I went on 2 dates with this one guy ("R") last month), so he said goodbye again. The next day he ("Z") texted again saying he had really cared about me and that he was sorry he'd made me upset and asked if I still thought about him. I started telling him about God & asking Jesus into his heart but he wouldn't have it. Just wanted to know if I still thought about him. So I told him I was seeing someone else and that it serious (I lied! ) so he said goodbye again and that he would delete my number.
"Z" was in my dream again this morning (texting me and asking how I was, concerned over the fact that I had fallen & hurt myself - true story), so I prayed for him (and will continue to). Should I have been honest? I'm thinking of telling him that things ended with "R" (they have, in any case it wasn't serious) and would he ("Z") like to be friends since that's all I have to offer. I wonder if maybe that might help him ("Z") move on? I've missed him too to be honest, but I can only offer him friendship, nothing more. What do you all think?
We (Me and "Z") had dated for 3 months (last summer) and only because after our 2nd date, when I wanted to break things off, he was begging me to give him another chance. At the time, a married man ("H") (who never told me he had a wife & 3 kids) had asked for my number and had been calling me, etc. which went on until his wife called me and I told her everything & never spoke to "H" ever again. I was really upset about that situation because it was never my intention to get involved as a third person in anyone's relationship, and my ex was there ("Z") and begging me to give him another chance and I was really upset... sooo I gave him ("Z") a 2nd chance. The relationship wasn't that great and he ("Z") ended up moving upstate about halfway into it. I would have kept up the efforts but I didn't like where things were going. Also, he's ("Z") an atheist & God was moving me closer towards Him in my faith & I could no longer justify being unequally yoked. I ended things, offering to remain friends, but he ("Z") said he couldn't handle seeing me with someone else, so he cut off all contact.
In the dream, he ("Z") said the same thing and excused himself (out of my dream).
Then in real life, he ("Z") emailed me asking me to call him, so I did (this was last week) and he said that he'd really missed me, etc. and was I seeing anyone else? I said I was (I went on 2 dates with this one guy ("R") last month), so he said goodbye again. The next day he ("Z") texted again saying he had really cared about me and that he was sorry he'd made me upset and asked if I still thought about him. I started telling him about God & asking Jesus into his heart but he wouldn't have it. Just wanted to know if I still thought about him. So I told him I was seeing someone else and that it serious (I lied! ) so he said goodbye again and that he would delete my number.
"Z" was in my dream again this morning (texting me and asking how I was, concerned over the fact that I had fallen & hurt myself - true story), so I prayed for him (and will continue to). Should I have been honest? I'm thinking of telling him that things ended with "R" (they have, in any case it wasn't serious) and would he ("Z") like to be friends since that's all I have to offer. I wonder if maybe that might help him ("Z") move on? I've missed him too to be honest, but I can only offer him friendship, nothing more. What do you all think?
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