I am in the middle of writing a letter to my ex-wife to let her know I have overcome a negativity she saw me personally suffer with while we were married...and that I forgive her, her brother and his wife.
For those who don't know, in 2012 my former brother-in-law and his wife reneged on their promise that I could move in with them if I lost my apartment. I was downsized the prior year, couldn't get work, the Unemployment ran out, and was on the verge of being evicted. This was done without a reason and no defense by my spouse. I had a epiphany and was going to forgive all three of them, no questions asked. That was when my ex said she wanted a divorce, no man in her life, and to return living with her parents. This was done just before I started my legal battle in housing court. By God's power and help, I never was evicted, and rebounded personally and financially. Our divorced was official in August, 2013.
How did I come to this monumental event today? I saw Unbroken yesterday and it affected me both individually and in terms of my divorce. Without spoiling anything, the main character goes through one hardship after another. This is very akin to what I have felt about a portion of my life. I used to say about myself, "It's always gotta be the hard way, right God?" I no longer feel that after seeing what this WW II vet went through. He also spent several years in two Japanese prison camps. Later on he forgave his captors. This is where the divorce comes in.
Today I had plans to speak with a coworker about sales strategies and prep for a job interview this Friday. I suddenly got this feeling and I mean a FEELING to write my ex about the overcoming and to also forgive her. I do not want to do this. I had no plans to ever communicate with her. I do not want her in my life in shape or form. Yet this feeling was so strong and counter to my own view, I knew it was from Above. I also felt like I was in an out-of-body aura. When this all started I wasn't sure I was going to mail the letter. I am sure now. And I don't care what response or no response I get. I even wrote that I don't care about a reply. I just wanted to share and forgive.
I'll keep you posted.
For those who don't know, in 2012 my former brother-in-law and his wife reneged on their promise that I could move in with them if I lost my apartment. I was downsized the prior year, couldn't get work, the Unemployment ran out, and was on the verge of being evicted. This was done without a reason and no defense by my spouse. I had a epiphany and was going to forgive all three of them, no questions asked. That was when my ex said she wanted a divorce, no man in her life, and to return living with her parents. This was done just before I started my legal battle in housing court. By God's power and help, I never was evicted, and rebounded personally and financially. Our divorced was official in August, 2013.
How did I come to this monumental event today? I saw Unbroken yesterday and it affected me both individually and in terms of my divorce. Without spoiling anything, the main character goes through one hardship after another. This is very akin to what I have felt about a portion of my life. I used to say about myself, "It's always gotta be the hard way, right God?" I no longer feel that after seeing what this WW II vet went through. He also spent several years in two Japanese prison camps. Later on he forgave his captors. This is where the divorce comes in.
Today I had plans to speak with a coworker about sales strategies and prep for a job interview this Friday. I suddenly got this feeling and I mean a FEELING to write my ex about the overcoming and to also forgive her. I do not want to do this. I had no plans to ever communicate with her. I do not want her in my life in shape or form. Yet this feeling was so strong and counter to my own view, I knew it was from Above. I also felt like I was in an out-of-body aura. When this all started I wasn't sure I was going to mail the letter. I am sure now. And I don't care what response or no response I get. I even wrote that I don't care about a reply. I just wanted to share and forgive.
I'll keep you posted.