98cwitr
Lord forgive me
- Apr 20, 2006
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Yes, when I moved with him -- he already had HUGE expenses. He makes good money of course -- but now he is taking a huge risk in starting his own business.
I guess I just wonder why someone in this position wouldn't just decide to find another employer instead of take a 200k business loan -- to only tell me he expects that it won't work very well.
I do not know how to leave him -- even though I literally and watching my life slip away.
Even today - I was busy working in the car -- trying to get something finished on deadline and he was very annoyed that I had been ignoring him. He said jokingly "do I need to go find a girlfriend...someone who still loves me? Since you don't seem to anymore..."
He says these kinds of things ALL the time -- as a joke.
You do know how to leave him...you're choosing not to. Put your feelings aside for the sake of your well being. I know what codependency is like, and it's only hard until you make your mind up. YOU have to choose this, not him, not some people on a forum. Get a place, get your stuff, convert your bills, and move out. It's literally that simple.
"If I ask to separate money - I know (after many fights) that he will say I'm not a team player and he will end our relationship."
Well put him to the test then!
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