My boyfriend and i of 2 1/2 years agree that we are not going to have sex untill we are married, and we agree oral sex is wrong. But what about all that other stuff? Is stuff like fingering wrong? Need help!
If what ever you are doing is creating a lust in either of y'all's minds, then it should probably be stopped right there. Also sex is a broad term. It encompasses ANY type of intercourse. With hand, with mouth, etc. I used to think the same way your bf does, until I read more into what that was making me feel and what it was doing to my relationships.Personally, I think messing around does not glorifie God, because it's playing with temptation. My boyfriend, however thinks it's okay because we're not disobeying God, and we're doing it out of love, not lust. (Now, when i say "messing around" I mean doing things like humping and touching eachother in inappropriate places). We disagree a lot on this subject. How can I convince him that we shouldn't be doing this? Does anyone know of any scripture that relates to this.
I really appreciate all the help by the way, and I'm open to anyone else's opinion!
Ok, as far as boundaries go you have to set them for yourselves because there is nothing clear-cut, but God does want us to stay pure, and not just physically, but also in our thought life. You need to truly ask yourself what your motivation is for doing the things you are doing. You may not think you're lusting, but you really need to make sure you aren't allowing yourself to be deceived. Now, as far as convincing your bf about how far is ok to go. First of all, you need to decide what boundaries you want in place, and he should decide the same. Then once you both have a "list" (meaning you don't have to write it down, but it wouldn't hurt), you should discuss it. Generally (guys don't take this wrong), girls are more conservative on their boundaries, and if they guy truly loves and cares for you he will find your boundaries worth sticking too. If he isn't willing to do this for you, there are probably many other things he won't be willing to do for you, and his motives for "messing around" are most likely not pure. If you have any questions or if this is confusing I'm sorry, please PM me. Hope you can work things out according to God's will, and pray pray pray...Personally, I think messing around does not glorifie God, because it's playing with temptation. My boyfriend, however thinks it's okay because we're not disobeying God, and we're doing it out of love, not lust. (Now, when i say "messing around" I mean doing things like humping and touching eachother in inappropriate places). We disagree a lot on this subject. How can I convince him that we shouldn't be doing this? Does anyone know of any scripture that relates to this.
I really appreciate all the help by the way, and I'm open to anyone else's opinion!
Pip,Personally, I think messing around does not glorifie God, because it's playing with temptation. My boyfriend, however thinks it's okay because we're not disobeying God, and we're doing it out of love, not lust. (Now, when i say "messing around" I mean doing things like humping and touching eachother in inappropriate places). We disagree a lot on this subject. How can I convince him that we shouldn't be doing this? Does anyone know of any scripture that relates to this.
I really appreciate all the help by the way, and I'm open to anyone else's opinion!