Only very recently! I was raised Catholic and was Catholic right up until a couple of months ago. I converted to Anglicanism because of the Birth Control issue in the Catholic Church. Some people (in my family and on CF) just would not permit me to be Catholic AND use birth control. It must be an amazing feat to be able to REMAIN Catholic and to decide to be child-free. I'm not sure how you managed it but you have my admiration.
That is wonderful to hear!! That is the ONLY thing that worries me about people who say that they will be child-free. But if you are all against abortion then that is just WONDERFUL. Good luck to you.
God bless.
Thanks! Well it is hard, because here on CF a day doesn't go by on the catholic forum without contraception being condemned as being part of a "culture of death". In my church it is difficult too. In my family luckily it's not a problem, because my parents are liberal catholics (well my mum is - my dad's an atheist actually) and my inlaws used birth control themselves. I'm sorry to hear that your family gave you such a hard time about it!
The reason why I can combine childfreedom with catholicism is that contraception is not a catholic dogma and it is not a faith issue. Dogmas are infallible and can't change; the church always says that the (doctrinal, not dogmatic) issue of contraception won't change, but theoretically it
could change. So that's why I feel I can follow my conscience in this - you're supposed to listen to your conscience anyway. It must be an informed conscience, but I have studied all the church's teachings on birth control elaborately, and while I agree with some of it I can't agree with all of it because I think it is inconsistent.
If catholics accuse fellow catholics of "cafetaria catholicism", of picking and choosing what they like about the church and ignoring the rest, they should think by themselves if they agree with 100% of the entire catechism or all the things the pope says. I'm sure that they will all find at least one tiny thing that they can't believe or do. To give an example, the pope is more of a pacifist and more of an environmentalist than many American catholics. Still, as long as they don't practice artificial birth control they think they are no cafetaria catholics. Well, that's picking and choosing too!
Besides, if I choose to not "pick" this one issue of the church, birth control, which has nothing to do with dogma or faith, that doesn't make me a cafetaria catholic. For that epithet I'd have to dissent with more issues than just the contraception one. You can't kick me out just because I disagree with 0.001% of your rules and dogmas! It doesn't make sense to say that you can only be a catholic if there isn't a single doubt or disagreement with the church - you'd have no one left!
If the church is seen as the bride of Christ - if we look at our church as a marriage type of thing, then I don't think 100% agreement is necessary to have a valid marriage. My husband and I are very much alike, we agree on most things, but not on every single thing. Still our marriage is valid and good. That's how I see the contraception issue too. I don't know who is right, the church or me (personally I
think I am, of course - but I'm not God, I don't know), but it doesn't make our marriage invalid. There can be love between spouses who disagree on one single thing.
Hope that explains it a bit! By the way, I think the Welsh flag is one of the prettiest flags in the world!